Maybe the war vet analogy doesn't hold much water, but the former POW analogy does. I don't really get along with very many people (big surprise, eh?) But most of my most solid friends are either program vets from whatever program or people who have recognized and taken some kind of stand against the more mainstream kinds of mindfuck.
I just got thrown out of what was once my favorite bar. The incident that got me kicked was this: A friend and I had recently gotten doped at a party. Thank GOD he realized something was up before we both went entirely into the fog and he got us out of there. I hadn't been so lucky last summer, before I started hanging with this guy. Well, the other day I was in a fowl mood anyway and telling this other dude at that bar about that incident. He said it was all my fault. Several times. So I knocked his hat off. He broke a glass, accidentally, when he scooped the hat up. But that was it, I'm banned for disagreeing, rather passionately, with a regular.
So I stop in yesterday, not to drink but to check on a friend. This big dude grabs me by the elbows and physically throws me out. I got into it with that dude moths ago when he was bragging about his high morality and pure ethics for leaving a particularly rough bar because he spotted a good friend's under aged daughter being served. I was a little shocked and asked him if it might not have been more moral and ethical to have stayed to make sure the girl made it home safely. With "normal" people, at least around here, that's all it takes to make it onto the permanent shit list. Just disagree. About anything.
S'awright. The former owners got banned too for similar reasons and just recently sold their interest. That former owner is also a former cop and current (last I heard) instructor at a local alternative high school. I can get along with him just fine because we take a common view of appropriate conversation. It's alright to disagree. It's ok to have a heated debate and/or ongoing discussion. It's NOT alright to go along to get along when we're headed toward tragedy. Program vets and them others who see through the bullshit in what was once the real world outside the program understand this. Them other people who think they're normal and sane just don't get it. They frighten me and piss me off.