From the other thread
There are thousands of parents out there, myself one, who got suckered into the whole TBS thing and regret it mightily. So how do we get past it and help our kids now if the only responses we get are condemnations. It's ya'll that don't have these kids well-being at heart---you just want to bash away at Mom and Dad. Well, Mom and Dad are painfully aware of the mistakes they made.
I'm in the same boat wonder woman. I recently got suckered into this whole industry myself.
Alberta Adolescent Recovery Center, AARC, Calgary, Alberta, Canada.
My son has been out for a number of months now. Biggest mistake of my life. If he ever forgives me, I know I won't forgive myself.
These places are like vampires, sucking the life, love and trust out of your family, all while lining their pockets. Interesting how we parents find fornits AFTER the industry has a grip on our lives! I would have ran as fast as possible in the opposite direction had I seen this info prior to making that phone call!
In hindsight, all I can really say is, you can't find your daughter's path, you can't "Help" her find her path. She needs to find her OWN path. Try to rebuild the trust in your relationship, be there to support her and listen to her. Personally, I think if they need to drift for a bit while they sort it all out, that's ok! Like someone else said, they're young, and it's a time to make and learn from mistakes.
