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Anonymous:

--- Quote from: "FemanonFatal2.0" ---
--- Quote from: "mcarter.fornits" ---If you choose to attack me - then reveal yourself, don't hide.  In the US Courts - everyone has a right to confront their accuser.  People
here are attacking me and hiding.  No charges have been brought against me, nor will any be, because I have not broken any laws, and
while many people do not agree with the decisions I have made ( every person's right - but then these are anonymous beings out there, not
people - I acknowledge no rights to anyone without a name!) they are my decisions.
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Let me entertain this notion for a moment, lets say that charges were brought against you... Do you realize that it would be none of us that would do so, it would be your daughter who would have the case against you. I think you should rephrase your thinking on who is attacking who at this moment, we are simply advocating for her because she seems to blame herself for those mistakes you say you made because you didn't know how to be a good parent for her.

I have been reading your blog, or I was until I started talking to Katie, I reached out to her because what I heard of "your side of the story" made me sick to my stomach. I really have to ask you what kind of parent treats their daughter with such disdain, regardless of the mistakes she's made in the past she is still your daughter and is deserving of your love. Yes, Katie made some bad decisions, but constantly berating her about them and refusing to give her any respect really escalated her self esteem problems. Don't you realize that the cycle never ends if you keep blaming her and refuse make any changes. You and Dianne talk a lot about how Katie doesn't take any accountability, well what about you? Do you really think you hold no responsibility in how miserable Katie grew to be? Honestly, Dianne was not a good fit for your family, she is too harsh and hateful and that is not the kind of mother Katie needed. You know she really needed you after she lost her mother, and its not hard to realize that this all started when you chose your wife over your daughter. I know how Katie felt, I came from a household where my stepmother made my life miserable as well and I acted out too because as a child you don't have the proper tools to deal with those emotions. Its your parents who are supposed to teach kids how to deal with their but instead you chose to fuel the fire with more hate and anger. Do you know what would have made all the difference in Katie's teen years? If you and Dianne would have taken some parenting classes and learned how to work with a child with depression. She had, (and still has) special needs but you spent so much time judging and punishing her that you actually made her depression worse and that depression, her misery and loneliness is what caused her to cut herself act out and hang out with friends that had similar problems. Stop blaming your child and be a man, take some responsibility and try to show her the love and attention she has been crying out for, she needs it and she deserves it.

Another reason I have to bring your parenting (and logic) into question is because despite the fact that she has a serious and crippling depression, you sent her to a program. A program that promises to change you child for you so you don't have to deal with it anymore. It WAS incarceration, she was not allowed to leave or even speak to anyone outside the facility beside you for 3 years... thats what we call here on earth a private prison. The way the program operates, even in the seemingly "non-abusive" schools, is not conducive to treating mental disorders, that fact is even stated in their contracts. The "therapists" work for the program and follow an oppressive agenda that is not approved by any medical or psychological association. The staff is not qualified to be working with special needs kids, regardless of if some of them call themselves "therapists", If they are not following proper medical procedures then they obviously don't know what they are doing. The whole program is an improper procedure, They strip children of their basic human rights, they use physical (and violent) restraint and isolation quite often as a punishment for "not following rules" instead of in accordance with federal law. They verbally, mentally and emotionally abuse the students in order to create the "tough love" environment and they cut too many corners when it comes to your children's safety and well-being. I don't understand, regardless if you felt you had no other option, why this kind of program would have even been considered for a severely depressed little girl. My guess is that getting her out of your home was more important then actually helping Katie and that is why so many of us are upset with the way you justify your actions.
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Thank you, femanon.

TheWho:
So the evidence shows that as long as the color coding isnt put in place to humiliate the person then it is an acceptable identification tool.

Anonymous:

--- Quote from: "Guest" ---So the evidence shows that as long as the color coding isnt put in place to humiliate the person then it is an acceptable identification tool.
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 Depending what an outfit signifies, whether an outfit is forced onto someone, and what further humiliations and punishments the outfit designates you as a receiver of merits whether it qualifies as psychological torture/ abuse or not .

If the Nazis forced the yellow star insignia onto the Jews as a while CLAIMING they are doing so to protect them, would that act still be psychologically abusive?

Yes.
The end, who

FemanonFatal2.0:

--- Quote from: "NeilW" ---
--- Quote from: "Guest" ---
Thanks, It seems someone has already grabbed my name.  I am not sure what I said to upset that person.  I guess it is pretty funny, but it does show why you need to register if you want to protect what you say.  I will post as a guest for awhile until I can come up with a different name.

NeilW
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You don't give up do you, troll!! Ha,Ha,Ha... I'm flattered that you want to be me, but give it a rest.
--- End quote ---

 look, its obvious your trolling, and we can tell when your trolling. stop making an idiot of yourself.

Here on forward any post by registered user NeilW should be ignored.

Real Neil, I suggest you make yourself a different name, register it and Im sure we will be able to recognize you simply by the manner of which you speak.

Antigen:
Ok, sometimes I just can't resist.

One  recent poster said no one could figure out why anyone would think the way a Program parent does. I could give some fairly well informed conjecture, but I won't. I'll just respond to this quote and leave it open to anyone's imagination, including my own, why the one idea seems to resonate with the other in my squirrelly little mind.

On one of the rare occasions in my adult life when I have conversed with my mother, she got annoyed with something I had said or done. She took on that familiar tone of a hen gearing up for a good rant and clucked out that rhetorical question that I had heard a hundred or more times before; "What's the matter with you?!" I quipped back "I dunno, Mom, poor potty training?" Never heard that particular one out of her again.

[edit... damn it! The quote got lost. It was just something about comparing bm to toilet training. sorry for the error]

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