Wow, pages and pages and pages... (Conductdisorder tread)
I have commented the list:
* Alleged verbal and physical abuse by biological mother (Yes. Punish the victim instead of calling the police)
* Alleged sexual abuse by biological mother’s friend(s) and boyfriend (Yes. Punish the victim instead of calling the police)
* Extreme temper tantrums (Its a girl. At a certain age expect it to happen around every 30 days)
* Violence toward others (It seems that the Child protective services are looking if it is not learned behavior)
* Bedwetting (Which could have been stopped if you had taken the birthmothers mail friends to the police and got some money for therapy)
* Refusal to comply with simple household rules (Simple. Not if the previous threads by this poster is read)
* Lying (Truth is not exactly what is held high in that household)
* Refusal to comply with prescribed medications (At some time even a human ginny pip might say stop)
* Drug-seeking behavior (Yes. You have tried every kind of medication on her)
* Confession to repeated intoxication by illegal drugs and alcohol (The drugs seeking you have caused. The alcohol is a rite of passage for most teens)
* Violent fantasies voiced (Ask her to put them into a book and send them to a publisher)
* Suicide threats (I have children and I work at a school. Rather normal. Maybe children should be banned from Internet, TV, Newspapers and Radio. Then it will stop)
* Stealing
* Sexual acting out (It's a teenager)
* Self-harming
Now I took the liberty to read a lot of threads from the poster. If the family had been identified by our child protective services, they would all have been ordered into a residential facility where the parent skills and the family dynamics would have been monitored for 3 months including the birth mother. It is not the girl who needs treatment. It is the entire family who should stop being pill-poppers and start living as a real family from start.
According to previous threads this family had a really good therapist for the girl, the girl connected with. Unfortunately the parents didn't like the diagnose the therapist came with and started to search for an alternative.