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Anonymous:
Why do people send their children to these sort of places? It seems it would make a kid worse that better. Does this experience alienate children from their parents?

TheWho:

--- Quote from: "concernedone" ---Why do people send their children to these sort of places? It seems it would make a kid worse that better. Does this experience alienate children from their parents?
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Unless you were ever in the parent’s situation it is almost impossible to understand.
Imagine a loved one slowly dying in front of you and you have tried everything you could to get them better and then you had an opportunity to get them better but it meant them leaving the home for a year or longer.  Wouldn’t you sacrifice a little of yourself to try to get his person the help they needed even though it meant being away from them?  Or would you be selfish and keep the person home and hope for the best?
Think about it!



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Anonymous:
Children are largely a product of their environment. If they are totally out of control, their parents share in the responsibility for the child's poor behavior.

There are programs for children for drug and alcohol addiction. Of course there is counseling, too. But to wash your hand of your child by sending him away to prison isn't an act of selflessness, it is the opposite.

"Therapeutic boarding school" sounds like a total hoax. It permits parents to rid themselves of their problem child without accepting responsibility for their own negligent parenting.

I cannot imagine a child with any reasonable level of intelligence seeing their parents' decision as anything other than an act of selfishness. But I would love to hear feedback from the children who have been sent to such places.

TheWho:

--- Quote from: "concernedone" ---Children are largely a product of their environment. If they are totally out of control, their parents share in the responsibility for the child's poor behavior.

There are programs for children for drug and alcohol addiction. Of course there is counseling, too. But to wash your hand of your child by sending him away to prison isn't an act of selflessness, it is the opposite.

"Therapeutic boarding school" sounds like a total hoax. It permits parents to rid themselves of their problem child without accepting responsibility for their own negligent parenting.

I cannot imagine a child with any reasonable level of intelligence seeing their parents' decision as anything other than an act of selfishness. But I would love to hear feedback from the children who have been sent to such places.
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It is a very difficult decision, I agree with you.  There was a study done a decade or so ago where they talked to families who needed to place their children in the children’s ward at Children’s hospital in Boston (I’ll probably get hammered here because I don’t have a link).  The children were there for a variety of reasons from cancer to liver failure to thyroid disease,  but the one thing they had in common is they didn’t want to be there.  Did the families feel guilty?  Yes, Responsible?  Of course.  There were people who asked the parents how they slept at night having their children in the hospital and questioning whether it was the right decision.  Others questioned why they decided to have kids knowing they had a history of cancer in their family and subjecting their own kids to suffering and death.

The bottom line is unless you have been thru a family crisis it is hard to understand the decisions that need to be made.  Many people decide against the odds to have children knowing the risk that the child may die at birth, have Down syndrome, Muscular dystrophy, emotional problems etc.  But they shouldn’t be judged too harshly.  Were they selfish to have kids in the first place?  Maybe, maybe not.  You seem to be fortunate that you have never been placed in a position to have a family member be treated outside the home.  Try to be a little more open minded towards others, they have been there, you haven’t.




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