Re: HAPA

[Anonymous]

Paul Lynde was found dead of a heart attack, naked and holding a bottle of amyl nitrate

Well... at least he wasn't holding a "special stick."

     They are encouraged in sessions to share about times they were shamed while growing up. These are wounds that were hidden and now need to be dealt with. At one session, a male phallic symbol was passed around signifying what it means to be a man; they were encouraged to talk about sexual experiences.

When you have the icon in your lap, it's your turn to share.

Those sessions are done whilst everyone is naked. At a certain point in the session, the men are encouraged to touch an adjacent brother between the legs if they so wish (yep!!), and reveal their feelings for their brother Warriors... lol

Frampton comes alive!

[Anonymous]

I'm swimming in a circle
I feel I'm going down

http://www.youtube.com/v/wUNiDuEvenk


If I had a boy like that I would not need poppers.

[Anonymous]

Hey I saw him in a commercial the other day, same body moves while he's playing guitar, same wah wah, could have been the same old Frampton cept he had barely any hair.

[Jesus H Christ]

Hey I saw him in a commercial the other day, same body moves while he's playing guitar, same wah wah, could have been the same old Frampton cept he had barely any hair.

  He was great in Humble Pie.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Humble_Pie_(band)

[Ursus]

Makes ya think, along the lines of Art Is Hard by Cursive...

[Anonymous]

One of the problems for me is that -- for all intents and purposes -- they are conducting therapy without a license, and certainly without training or professional constraints and accountabilities. Come to think of it, that is exactly what Hyde does as well.

 Well that just goes to show you that the apple does not fall far from the tree.

This is a tree that tends to bear rotten fruit. IMHO, Hyde is a cult, encourages cult-mindsets, and attracts people who are into cults.

I'm not saying that everyone who ends up there is of that ilk; lots of parents and kids get duped by the moral-laden rhetoric. But... generally speaking, in order to do well there, you do tend to drink the koolaid.

The Kool-ade is cider from that rotten fruit.

[Anonymous]

A HAPA INVESTMENT
WITH HYDE RETURNS

WE'RE CHALLENGING
OUR FELLOW
HAPAS!

We've been Challenged
Introducing The $35,000 HAPA Challenge
2008-09 Annual Fund

» Hyde Schools is seeking $1.4 million in unrestricted giving to the 2008-09 Annual Fund. This is a $283,368 increase over last year. The Annual Fund helps support student financial aid, the Family Education program and helps keep Hyde accessible to a broad cross-section of families that benefit from our unique family-based character education program.

» Recognizing the need for increased giving from HAPA membership to meet this assertive goal, two couples—Debbie & Joe Werner (Jason Werner ‘06 Woodstock) and Jacki Hinton & Dave Boone (Aaron Hinton ’98 Bath) will match the gifts of all alumni parents who:

• Increase their giving to the Annual Fund over their last gift
• Give at the same level as their last gift

» All Class of 2008 HAPAs will have their gifts matched, regardless of the size of the gift. We welcome you as first-time HAPA donors.

» Alumni Parents whose decrease their gift size over their previous gift are not eligible for the match.

» The Challenge is capped at the first $35,000 in participation.

» The HAPA Challenge concludes on June 30, 2009.

To take the HAPA Challenge and make your gift online:

 (((((((((((((Click Here))))))))))))

HAPA Giving and Annual Fund Quick Facts:

• $1,116,632 in cash was received via the 2007-08 Annual Fund. This total represents an increase of $139,632 over 2006-07.
• Hyde is in the midst of a 4-5-year effort to double the Annual Fund from $977,000 to $2 million. Alumni Parent giving will be the key to attaining this goal.
• Alumni Parents contributed $163,240 in 2007-08 vs. $146,331 in 2006-07.

For more information please contact Lavoe Davis
at 860-963-4720 or http://www.hapaonline.org/hapachallenge

[Anonymous]

What a racquet!  There is one born every minute.


"I only regret"

NHB

[Ursus]

There is a new HAPA "Chairperson" this year. Lee Mortenson and Carol Kirkland are still offering their Relationship Workshops to enable HAPA members, current parents and other Hyde alumni "a way to continue the Hyde process and go deeper," but they are no longer Chairpersons. (This may very well be a rotating job, for all I know.)

Here is a somewhat recent message from the current Chairman, Dan Sullivan. Do I read that first sentence correctly?

We are still facing the challenge of how to transform HAPA into an active, meaningful organization for parents after they graduate from Hyde.[/list]

—•?|•?•0•?•|?•— —•?|•?•0•?•|?•— —•?|•?•0•?•|?•—

Notes from the HAPA Chairperson…Dan Sullivan

We are still facing the challenge of how to transform HAPA into an active, meaningful organization for parents after they graduate from Hyde. We recognize that different people want different things from HAPA. We made some initial efforts last year, some of which were successful, and some – not so much. Rob Buckla and Lavoe Davis are providing leadership from Hyde and we are adding new Board members to bring fresh ideas and energy to our efforts.

A small group met in Atlanta recently to redefine the long-term goals for HAPA in light of last years' experience.

Long-Term Goals:

• Develop HAPA into a national organization that is volunteer-driven.
  
• Support the boarding schools in their admissions effort. During these challenging economic times the schools need our help in recruiting students and families.
  
• Support the boarding and charter schools in their needs in the Family Education Departments. Alumni parents bring a wealth of wisdom to this area of the family's experience.
  
• Provide a service to HAPA membership with focus on things people don't get elsewhere.

These goals set an ambitious path for HAPA. For the remainder of the year we have identified several initiatives consistent with these goals:

• Admissions/recruitment efforts: Perhaps no initiative is more important than developing new approaches to bringing students to the board schools. Rich Truluck, Executive Director of Admissions, writes, "The boarding schools admissions team is developing a territory initiative in key demographic areas. Each area has been assigned a senior staff member; this leader will be the connector for the area. We will be concentrating on creating networks in each area (including alumni, parents and HAPA members) and cultivating relationships with them. Each territory will have an event to promote Hyde Admissions to prospective families and professionals. The goal is to create a network of centers of influence that will refer families to Hyde. We need to increase our contacts within each area and will count of the HAPA community for their continued volunteer support and expertise. HAPA is key to this strategy?"
  
• HAPA Regions: New emphasis and energy is being put into developing dynamic HAPA regions across the country.
  
• Provide HAPA facilitators and FLCs, Family Weekends, Senior Parent Retreats, Regional Retreats and other events: HAPAs have been coming back to Hyde informally for many years to facilitate seminars. This assistance is vital given the many demands on faculty and staff. We hope to start a program in which different HAPA regions agree to facilitate a particular retreat, which has the added benefit to allowing HAPAs to spend time with people they grew close to while their students were at Hyde.
  
• Offer distinctively Hyde social activities: We want to offer opportunities for HAPAs who want to remain involved with Hyde, but who are not interested in seminar-type programs. Look for announcements in the near future about special events for HAPAs that we feel sure many will enjoy.
  
• Offer personal growth-oriented programs for HAPA members: These programs can include events held previously such as couples workshops, women's retreats, and outdoor activities. We are on the look-out for new ideas that will give HAPA members opportunities to continue on the journey of personal growth that began at Hyde.
  
• Create new TAP-A-HAPA opportunities: TAP-A-HAPA is designed for alumni parents to bring their special talents back to Hyde. On a large scale, there is the Songwriters' Workshop headed by Don Cook and Michael McDonald held in Bath every year which includes students from the Bath and Woodstock campuses. Many other HAPAs have come back to campus to share special skills or knowledge. We welcome ideas from HAPAs and we will provide support as much as possible.
  
• Bolster the staff for HAPA: The leadership at Hyde is identifying individuals who can provide dedicated time to HAPA activities. We are fortunate to have Lavoe Davis, Executive Director of Development, and Rob Buckla, Vice-President of Development and External Relations, devoting time to HAPA efforts.

[Anonymous]

Songwriters' Workshop headed by Don Cook and Michael McDonald

"What a fool believes, no wise man has the power to reason away."

Tell the truth, who's been foolin' you?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7vImjEQDVc

[Anonymous]

Songwriters' Workshop headed by Don Cook and Michael McDonald

"What a fool believes, no wise man has the power to reason away."

Tell the truth, who's been foolin' you?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7vImjEQDVc

From Alumni News, Spring/Summer 2008:

2007
. . .
Dylan McDonald and his band, the Avians, opened for his father, Grammy Award winner Michael McDonald, at the Bank of America Pavilion Theater in Boston in September. Dylan appeared on stage wearing a bright yellow HYDE t-shirt in front of thousands of fans! His band performed an opening set while the big screens flashed our name (and his face) over and over again.
. . .

http://www.hyde.edu/ftpimages/107/downl ... 328339.pdf

[dishdutyfugitive]

URSUS

Why doeth though thou lust for the Laurie Hurd 1983 photo?

What is the deal with Hyde.

 Is it really as it appears?

CEDU meets east coast prep school?  

I can't imagine such a place.

Why have I never heard of it? Ever.

[Ursus]

URSUS

Why doeth though thou lust for the Laurie Hurd 1983 photo?

What is the deal with Hyde.

 Is it really as it appears?

CEDU meets east coast prep school?  

I can't imagine such a place.

Why have I never heard of it? Ever.

 :rofl:   LOLs. Ya got the wrong hamster as far as Laurie Hurd is concerned. NOT my type... <cough cough> ...at all. Besides, the blunt dogmatism would be enough of a buzzkill right off the bat. Somebody else on the wheel saw fit to make that comment, who must have his own reasons and criteria, such as they are...

As to weird-ass so-called prep school with CEDU sprinkles on top... keep in mind that Hyde predates CEDU, though not by much. They would have both been born out of the same cultural mash, same exposure to "new ideas" given airplay by the media, same generational delving into the efficacies of "Groups Dynamics" and the goodies of the Human Potential movement that became popular obsessions in the aftermath of the Second World War... albeit on opposite coasts.

Interesting that Mel Wasserman also tried to ply his take on the trade in a more conventional school setting, as did Joe Gauld (New Hampton, Berwick Academy). Don't know offhand about Mel, but the more mainstream route didn't work so well for Joe...

[Antigen]

sk and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

Or convert to Catholicism, take what you want, confess and be forgiven. Alternately "punch him in the throat" answers most of life's most difficult problems.

[Ursus]

Ahh. Thanks for that bump.

I had planned to post the Michael Scinto story here, but apparently never got around to it. Scinto participated in the New Warrior Training Adventure put on by the Mankind Project, and then committed suicide not too long after. The Houston Press did a story on this, along with a cover story / blog summarizing some of the pertinent details. Here's that cover story:

-------------- • -------------- • --------------

Houston Press Blogs
Cover Story: The ManKind Project
By Chris Vogel, Wednesday, Oct. 3 2007 @ 2:01PM



I was first introduced to a men's group called The ManKind Project while reading through a lawsuit filed against the organization in Harris County civil court. It described a weekend retreat north of Houston where men dress in black, wear face paint, and engage in rituals and exercises called "Cock Talk," and "Little Boy's Deepest Needs."

The ManKind Project is an international nonprofit organization that claims to offer men training: how to be accountable for yourself, how to express yourself, how to learn that being a man in today's world is okay. Men pay hundreds of dollars to attend a weekend initiation retreat, during which they engage in rituals – many in the nude – and delve into men's most intimate and personal issues.

Many men who attend the weekend swear the program changed their lives for the better. But not all. The Scinto family, who filed the lawsuit, claim their son attended the retreat in 2005, came home, and two weeks later took his own life because he could not handle the psychological stresses placed upon him during the weekend.

The family began investigating and discovered an underworld of critics who feel this self-help program – where men must sign confidentiality contracts and liability waivers to attend – has the potential to do harm. Critics, including the Scinto family, claim the organization appears to practice psychology without a state license, targets vulnerable members of 12-step recovery groups, and has a poor vetting system with which to determine who is and who is not capable of dealing with the program.

With all its confidentiality agreements, The ManKind Project is shrouded in mystery and secrecy. In this week's feature, "Weekend Warriors," we chronicle the Scinto family's attempts to pull back the veil and show a side of The ManKind Project that's not seen in the organization's promotional films, two of which you can view below. -- Chris Vogel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFdLLyRzbto

http://www.youtube.com/v/ubMzPZAX9h8


©2010 Houston Press, LP.