This was posted on MySpace by the Peninsula Village counselor who called herself "Wife of Hades" and used her blog to push her photography business, "Underworld Images" which had a bunch of Goth girls restrained, one looking hog-tied, one laying on a bed topless with her wrists slashed and a Stanley knife close to her hand. Not the sort of sideline that's going to build parents' trust in the PV staff. Settle For Nothing has stockpiled a big collection, some I hadn't seen before. Anyway, I'm bringing this back up because of the Maia Szalavitz quote in Ginger's sig - "What makes these 'tough love' programs uniquely dangerous is that they are led by amateurs who believe they are experts." -- Maia Szalavitz
The first blog I read by the B+D counselor is what really disturbed me, and that quote reminded me of it -
Bored out of my mind....
Current mood: bored
Category: Jobs, Work, Careers
I'm at work and just came out of a parent conference with one of my kid's parents. I did it alone - with her therapist - and now I feel drained. I never want to say anything to make the parents feel like they don't know their own child or to make them feel like they don't know what's best,but we are experts on this shit.
And here's her curriculum vitae...four years in a Comm College made her an "expert on this shit".
Walters State Community College, 1996 to 2000
Morristown,Tennessee
Graduated: 2000
Student status: Alumni
Degree: Associate's Degree
Major: Psychology
After my step daughter got out of PV, the counselor decided to have a go at me, for unknown reasons. I had quit checking the blog, and since she had been forced by PV to remove the other blogs and bondage pictures, I thought it was a done deal. She obviously doesn't know that those old blogs of hers were saved by my wife and I, and that's what makes her last rant all the more deranged - I don't know who she was writing this for, but she knew I would spot the cover-ups. A really good example of why parents should ask to meet and get background on the people who will spend the most time with their kids...
To the people who come from Fornits
Current mood: creative
Category: Jobs, Work, Careers
I've never felt the need to explain myself when it comes to certain situations, but I do defend myself when someone is trying to drag my name through the mud.
Some time ago, on a place called Fornits, a man we'll call "Z" decided to lurk around the internet in search of staff and anything he thought to be incriminating against them. I won't go into any detail about his life on here, but his step-daughter was where I work. He hated the place for certain reasons, reasons that had absolutely nothing to do with me.
He found my photography myspace page.
I just want to inform you, "Z", along with your possee that there never was or has been nude "girls" - plural - on my site, but a nude woman - singular - and she was well over the legal limit. She is 24. If you'd like to see for yourself, she is Kiss me Deadly, or Sorayah. She and I have done a lot of work together, if you haven't noticed. I love creating artistic photography. The fetish themed pics were for an event that I attended.
No, quite a few of those looches were naked,she had to fuzz the nipples and naughty bits to keep Tom from axing them from MySpace. The "What is Fetish" event is the one she attended, and she must have been gearing up for a year - SettleForNothing has a ton of the wretched restraint and B+D pics.
Another thing, I never discussed the "financial woes" of where I work. I do believe that a lot of what has been said has been false. And as far as talking about my bosses, most everyone hates their boss for a day, then gets over it the next. It's part of the relationship. And I haven't said anything that I haven't already or would say to them. And I know they can handle it. Any good boss would. It's part of teamwork and they're the leader for a reason.
No, that's a lie as well - she even calls the psychologist by name...here's what she posted:
On the other hand, work has still been uptight for me. We had a meeting Thursday in which we discussed our staffing situation and what we are going to do about it. I knew there would be some switching, but the news was a little different.
They decided to close down one of our cabins (the girls). We have four and because of our staffing issue, we are going to close down The Eagles and spread out the kids and the staff amongst the other 3 groups. This will help tremendously! Of course, Adam (our psychologist), is upset about closing it down (because of money loss I'm sure). It will probably be closed for 3-4 months or so.
Taking bits and pieces of a whole and trying to make it into a solid piece will not work. You can keep trying until your heart is content, but I never had anything to do with your daughter. I never talked to her or laid a finger on her, as you so claim. I was pregnant the entire time she was there, so if you think I'd be dumb enough to jump into a physical incident, you are sorely mistaken.
No one ever said she did. This counselor was in the cabin area, my step daughter never made it out there
Yeah, I've made some dumb decisions in my life and having my photography business and where I work listed together was one of them. I am just proud of where I work and what I do. I love what I do. And I wish the best for any kid who comes in and out of there, including your step-daughter. Some kids are tougher than others, but I hope the best for them all. There are some great people who work there. Everything I've done is perfectly legal...especially the photos.
Dumb, yes. Very dumb when people are entrusting their kids to someone like this.. Yeah, the photos are legal...unethical and professionally dumb as hell to post them next to your job working with kids in a treatment program with an already shit reputation.
As far as my history....if you were to have surgery, would you pick the doctor with 7 years of experience plus some book knowledge, or the doctor who's really good on paper, with only a year experience? Maybe it's just me, but I think I'd rather have someone who's been there, done that - so to speak.
If I were actually going to pay close to $9,000 a month for treatment, I'd expect experience and "book knowledge". Jesus Christ.
Just for a bit of information, the blogs that "Z" likes to refer to were posted as "friends only" which means that he had to befriend me on myspace so that he could read up on my stuff. Kind of stalkerish, wouldn't you say??
No they weren't - they were all connected to pushing "Underworld Images" as a business. My wife googled PV and this counselor's blog was at the top of the pile. Tom at MySpace can verify that.
Oh and on a final note. I never almost lost my job because of this. I chose to delete my accounts on my own. I was never made to by my company. I chose to make a fresh start.
Again, I have to call bullshit on that. In her own words:
August 23, 2006 - Wednesday
I had to delete my other profiles...
Current mood: irate
Category: Blogging[/color]
..because of a work related issue (which I'll discuss later).
I'm adding back my best friends. There will only be a small amount of you; no ridiculousness...at least not for a while!!!
This is Baby Lou Tattoo, BTW...incase you didn't already pick up on who I am. I will add to my profile later. Right now I'm too steamed to do anything.
I need to go out.[/color]
Three days later...
August 26, 2006 - Saturday
Say anything.
Current mood: exhausted
Category: Blogging
I feel so exhausted. Emotionally.
This shit is really wearing me out, but I'm trying not to worry because that won't solve anything. But whenever I feel like spending a little dough, I'm hesitant because I wonder if I should hold onto that money until I find out if I have a job next week.
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My whole purpose in this blog is to defend my name. I'm a good person and I practice the golden rule. Now if you mess with me, I don't take it lightly...or at all. I do not plan to retaliate in any way; I could care less what you do in your own time.
I don't have to say anything else, all of my friends and people I encounter will tell you how awesome I am!
And my blogs are available for everyone to post on, so feel free to speak your minds. If you say where I work or give out any other personal info, I may choose to delete your comment.
Yeah, that didn't really do it for me, and I also wouldn't give her the satisfaction of sending the "posse" to post on her damn blog. Instead, I emailed it to the rather clueless administrator of PV, asking if he approved of his staff discussing former patients on a public MySpace account, and cc'd it to HIPAA. Her site went to private with a quickness.
Here's the mentality Maia was talking about: unqualified, uneducated, unethical and unprofessional staff who consider themselves "experts on this shit". Fucking scary.