Anne Bonney wrote: THAT is coercion.
Well, then everything fits that definition from putting your crayons away to going to school, to joining the field hockey team. If I waited for my kids to ask to go to school, none of them would ever get an education. You’re a parent, you know this, coercion is needed a nudge is needed…immersion into a new environment is needed sometimes especially when our children are in trouble and need help.
Didn't you say there was a time period that she wouldn't speak to you after getting out? I can't swear to it, but I thought you posted about that.
No, when she got back she went back to her old friends for a bit and drank and smoked pot but she tired of the partying after a couple of weeks. I have to admit, it put a scare into me, right after she got home. But she had this amazing ability to communicate which she learned and we would sit down every night and check in with each other which was something we never had before (at least not in her teen years). I gave her the space she needed and she tired of the intense life style and got back into her studies, I mean I am sure she still smokes pot once in awhile but she is focused on herself and things she wants which is a big change from pre ASR. We communicated this back to ASR and they have developed a better program for when the children are transitioning back home.
Then YOU are the one who hasn't been reading. Its not really different at all. Especially given the fact that they use the therapeutic community approach that comes from Synanon.
You can trace any one thing or event back to many beginnings and origins, find similarities etc. , but ASR has a more clinical evidence based approach now reading what many kids here on fornits experienced vs. what ASR offers is like night and day.
Well, they like to say that and some may actually believe that but its not really true. You think you have an understanding because you have a child who went through, but you don't. My parents have no clue what really went on behind closed doors. For years they deluded themselves into thinking that they did, that it was what they 'had to do', that it really did 'save my life'. They found out differently once they removed the 'rose colored glasses'.
You are trying to take your experience and place it on everyone else. Not everyone is like your dad or yourself. Some people do have an understanding and communicate well. No, I haven’t been thru what you have been thru and I don’t pretend to, but you haven’t been thru what my daughter and I have been thru, nor communicate on the same level. I don’t just think or believe…I know what happened at ASR and a lot of the stories here on fornits about ASR or true to a certain extent, although a bit embellished, there are similarities to what she experienced, but she grew from them where others did not. I never said these school are for everyone and agree that there should be a better screening process to ensure a higher percentage of children benefit from going there.