Yes, yes, we all know men are visual. Hence the booming erotic video markets. However, what's often neglected is that as men age, they usually require tactile stimulation to achieve full arousal. The days of making tents in their jeans at the mere sight of skin is long gone. Even with an attractive and willing partner, an additional hand is often needed. Men need to know to ask for it and their partners need to know to offer it. No shame attached.
An important corollary of that secret is that most men, of any age and any stage in the proceedings, will temporarily droop when they stop to put on a condom. Not all men, not all situations. But the softening of a stiff and ready erection at the cold reality of latex is so common it ought to be printed on all condom wrappers: "Caution, may cause temporary softening upon application."
The amount of a woman's lubrication is not always the direct result of her partner's artful techniques, or even an indication of how aroused she is at the moment. Some women can go from wet to much wetter, even post menopause. While others, after the cessation of their menstruation, dry up and require daily applications of lubricants just to keep their parts in working order. Applying something like Eucerin every time they use the bathroom is a simple solution. We also need to be reminded that various drugs like antihistamines, marijuana, and even one alcoholic drink can cause a temporary Sahara in a woman's nether regions.
