On 2005-10-27 15:06:00, Anonymous wrote:
"I stumbled across this website by looking for information on the Rebekah Home for girls and was amazed by what I read. There seems to be so much bitterness flying through here. It actually cracks me up at how many of you are behaving like children. The "beatings" as you refer to are called spankings - discipline - consequences for your own foolish actions. I have received many of these spankings in my life and it only helped mold me into a better person. We are all born with a sinful nature and need to be taught to do right. Just as you would slap the hand of a child who was going to put his finger in an electric socket to protect him from harm, our butts needed to be slapped to protect us from endangering our lives in the future. I know from personal experience that the Rebekah Home is used as a tool to help young girls get their lives on the right track and the people who sent these girls there did it because they care. You reap what you sow, young ladies. The bitterness that started in your heart all those years ago is eating you up from the inside out and destroying you. It's because of Jesus Christ that I have true peace and joy. Remain your miserable selves but don't infect others who want help and who are looking for a place to help the people they care about by foolishly rambling on about a place where YOU CHOSE not to allow the Lord and the staff to help you. For those who are looking for a place to send their teenage girls, I have seen many lives truly changed for God by the Roloff ministries. I am a personal witness to girls coming in from homes full of rebellion and anger much like the girls on this site but they yielded to the Holy Spirit and were truly changed and went on to live happy lives for the Lord. Don't let the angry bitterness of the girls on these postings affect your interest in this home. It is good to see you care enough to try to find a way to help the people you care about. I'm not saying the Rebekah Homes are the only way to go. There are other homes out there similar to it that can help your girls as well. Don't give up. There is hope.
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I was also in the home in 71
It was a correct statement you made when you "stumbled" across this site, "Stumbled" being the key word, Because You "STUMBLED" through a lot of heart felt letters and made light of something that was very tragic for a lot of girls. Who are by the way now full grown woman- and you should treat them with respect. They are no longer children or "YOUNG LADIES" as you have put it in your letter. The bitterness that you claim is flying though here is from a lot of woman that have every right to be bitter. Their treatment at the homes after we left was a horrible tragedy that makes me deeply sad. And angers me beyond words-There just are none or enough that could be said to tell these woman how sorry that I am for what they had to endure not only there, but now as I speak, how they are still enduring what the homes did to them. What part of it "CRACKED" you up? You dare come on here and refer to them as children and mock them with your own amusement. You think it is funny? Shame on you!
Represent your self as a Christan or even as one of us? How dare you judge them! You where not there with them, and your ignorance angers me! I am sad for you that you that your heart is hardened and that you choose to criticize Instead of embrace understanding of their very real pain. Your lack of knowledge is embarrassing me! Don't speak for the girls of 71 speak for your self. No one here needs to be educated on discipline! KNOCK KNOCK! HELLO! We have all had our own children and very much know the difference. And it did not require beating them or starving them or beating them over the head with the bible. We did not need to force feed God's teachings to them. Nobody here that I know of had to strip their children of their self esteem for making mistakes. Or Your words "FOOLISH ACTIONS"! Sure there has to be discipline with in reason to direct our children's paths. But poping your kid on the hand is a far cry from being slapped, starved, or thrown in lock up. They did not whip them for doing drugs or running away etc. The price for that my friend was being there. Just being there. Loosing everything they where use to having,- one being their freedom. Knock Knock are you listening? Do you hear what I am saying? Unless they where hitting them for something they where clearly already paying for. They got whipped for stupid shit ex-sample being something left on the floor. Day to day stuff. How many of you ladies can remember being whipped for stupid shit raise your hands please. That served no life purpose? Served a purpose for the home for the workers that abused. They squeezed all the purpose they could get from it.
Was it endangering their life's when they did not have everything in place in their rooms?
Or for some just stepping out of their rooms? You make it sound like they where whipped so they would not hurt themselves. UN-true! they took up everything anyone could possibly hurt them self's with. The whippings where dished out according to what they defined as bad. How many times did they deserve to be beaten for what they did before they got there? And some girls did nothing to get there.
Yes bitterness dose destroy ones heart. But talking about it was the first step to getting past it for a lot of people here. UN-like you could at the home. Where you were not allowed to speak of you know little things like getting raped or molested or beaten. These issues where not approachable by them. Not once was anyone told honey it is not your fault you got molested or raped or that your mom was never home or your parents where divorced or that you mom or dad was a drunk.
What infects others Is people like you! Who choose to stay ignorant and one sided and choose not to look past their own experiences. And duh! realize and open your arms and heart to someones who's is different. You turn a blind eye to the fact that mistakes where made- Your indifference and lack of compassion sickens me to my very core.
Standing there with your hands on your smarty little pants saying "You reap what you sow"
"Your bitterness is derived from your own inadequate mistakes all those years ago Is eating you inside out and destroying you"! Who the hell do you think you are? You do not know these girls hearts or souls! How dare you make that assessment with-out even understanding them as individuals? Maybe the Granny is coming out of me now because I just want to slap your little face.... Note: I am saying that nicely now while I am doing it....I am trying to help you...
Now that did not sound very Christan did it? I'm sorry but I don't want you to put your finger in a socket now would we?
Maybe you should go get back in that o'll prayer closet and pray for forgiveness for Judging
people that you don't even know. My experience at the home was much like yours and did have it better.Things started out good- and for some it did change their life's for the better,but for others destroyed. Because things changed and people where hurt. And in spite of it have become wonderful-
people,with good children that they chose to raise different. I stand in awe of them because of who they have become and what they have accomplished-And believe it or not with Jesus Christ in their life's and hearts. Because why? He lives in their hearts not at the homes. It is in our darkest hours that Christ comes to us even when we are bitter.He heals us.and nobody has to go back to the homes to receive that-because Jesus is no further than our own hearts. He said he would never leave or forsake us -
We should embrace them not judge them. I say Shame on you! SHAME SHAME SHAME! One day you will read this letter again when you are being judged by God. May he have mercy on you soul. :flame: :flame:
