Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Facility Question and Answers
Discovery Academy - Provo, UT
Joyce Harris:
Mel: there is NO GUARANTEE that the parents have contact with their children in SIX WEEKS---it depends on when the program decides that the child has reached this level.
It could take a LOT LONGER THAN 6 weeks for your son to get to the "level for parental contact."
My daughter was at Whitmore Academy--and we were never told about "no contact for a month" until after we had left her there. When I was told about this "no contact" after we returned home, after enrolling her: I said, "Absolutely not. PUT MY DAUGHTER ON THE PHONE RIGHT NOW, or I will be there to pick her up immediately!" We were allowed telephone contact--but other parents did not exert this "right."
But: we removed our daughter after 2 months, when an investigation of child abuse against the owners began.
It probably depends on what is agreed to in the enrollment contract. We NEVER agreed to "no contact with our daughter" for any specified time.
Good luck.
mel0731:
I am off for the night. Wish me the best as I am going to visit a couple of community resources tomorrow for my son.
Thank you all so very much. I am sure you have not heard the last of me. Hope to give you good reports and I will be back on the site.
Good night....
mel
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: ""mel0731"" ---Yes, I am clear. It is the other side I need to convince.
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Mel: Bring the other side here. Or a few people here can get into contact with him. Either way.
Your ex-husband isn't actually evil or sadistic, is he?
psy:
--- Quote from: ""mel0731"" ---He does believe he is an addict. His problem got to be quite severe. In fact, he overdosed in December. Maybe classified was not the right word...
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overdosed on what?
--- Quote ---He is buying into the 12 steps, although, he has found something more Biblically based that he has embraced.
He is telling me that is wants to be clean and sober. I want to believe he is telling me the truth. He has not enjoyed rehab. Well, who does? But, it has given him some good time to reflect and I do believe he wants his life back...
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Did he believe he was an addict before going to the rehab? This is relatively important, since i've heard that particular 30 day rehab can be very confrontational. Some people believe things that are not true about himself and/or create self-fulfilling prophecies.
If he is an addict, and he is at a point where he wants to help himself, if he likes AA... Fine. great. I would recommend Rational Recovery instead (does not require changing life around, sponsors, etc.) But why send him to an TBS?
mel0731:
No, his father is not sadistic. He believes what the therapists are telling him hook, line and sinker. He is quite intelligent, but I think wants to take all precautions he can. Or I should say, the precautions being recommended by the rehab place.
You raise an interesting point about being an addict before admission. Yes, he thought and knew he had a problem and admitted that to me. He was seeing a therapist here at home and she told me that he truly needed help.
As far as the OD, he had three times the legal amount of alcohol in his system, opiates, benzos and he had taken mushrooms. Not a great combination...
As far as why a TBS, the therapsits at rehab think that this will give him a better chance at recovery than coming home or attending a small boarding school about 80 miles from my home. I am pushing for option #2 for a variety of reasons. My son believes he can be successful there. He is scared to death to go to Discovery and has cried when it has been discussed. He saw the DA Forum website with comments from former students before it was pulled.
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