This is a real situation. And it's more like a 7 day place. I couldn't even get him in there until I mentioned "suicide." I don't think he is really suicidal, but he did mention it.
I know how to Google. That's how I found this website and a few others. I started researching TBS's when a co-worker of a relative suggested a certain "school." In researching it I learned about the horrors of some TBS's. The school suggested to me turned out to be a former WWASP school in Ga.
I get the impression that this is a site for people who had horrible experiences at horrible TBS's. I figured that if there is any dirt on the program in Hendersonville, NC, I could find it here. After I posted, I searched the site and found an article about a death at an Eckerd program in Florida.
Does anyone have a positive suggestion about my son's situation? My son gets out of the very short-term program today or tomorrow.
Thanks.
Sorry if i seem negative to you. There are many people who come onto this site pretending to be parents, often asking questions that seem silly to most that have been around here a while.
I can't emphasize enough how unsafe this industry is. As far a suggestions for help? I am not a mental health professional (and neither are educational consultants, or most that work at these programs).
I suggest you ask a therapist what his advice is. If he suggests a TBS, point him to this site, and we will point him to the ASTART to get a clue.
If you want my advice? Imagine you couldn't afford a TBS and go from there. Exhausted, who posts on this site, could probably also offer some advice. She is a parent who had similar issues with her kids and learned to work them out on her own.
Your son is depressed, and has issues of his own, a TBS won't fix that, it will temporarily "fix" the behavior, (which will most likely return to normal once he leaves). At that point. He will also hate you. Ask yourself: is he the forgiving type? The underlying issues will still be there, and only introspection and/or therapy can help that.
My advice on what to do: See how he acts when he gets home.
What to do if he acts out? Ask a mental health professional. Functional Family Therapy can do a lot for these situations as well.
Hey Pops,
Listen, you've gotten some good advice here. Definitely
stay away from 'programs' that take your kid out of your home. They don't work, are expensive and carry a very high risk of physical and psychological harm - we're talking long-term, hard to deal with, life-altering consequences here.
You got good advise about FFT. FFT in conjunction with a day treatment program sounds like the ticket for your boy. Look into it. Find a licensed therapist who specializes in FFT and get him into day treatment to keep him safe.
BTW, I am a former licensed therapist who has worked with dozens of 'TBS' kids to try to undo some of the massive damage they incurred at the hands of uneducated, unlicensed quacks at the conformity factories you like to call 'TBS.'
Any questions you have can be asked here or directed to me by PM.
Good luck. It's not nearly as bad as it seems and there are effective research-proven modalities to help your boy.
STAY AWAY FROM 'WT,' 'EG,' 'TBS' -
THEY HAVE BEEN PROVEN INEFFECTIVE AT EVERYTHING OTHER THAN EXACERBATING EXISTING PROBLEMS.