guys STOP!!!!!
Why do you assume its just guys and not gals?
For crying out loud, do you wnat her to come over here or not?
Not. What purpose would it serve? So she can be trolled and fucked with endlessly until she figures out what this forum is about, and that people who post here have no patience with ignorant potential program parents? Probably make her more eager to send junior away.
i am in contact with the mum, you are wrong, she doesn't want to send her daughter away,
Well then what is the issue?
that is the issue, she doesn't want her to go, she wants to get her help while keeping her at home....she is a confused and desperate mum, she is not stupid, she doesn't know what happens at programs, she only knows how wonderful they are painted to be
Send her a few links via email to your favorite threads here at fornits describing programs. Send her links to isaac, and all the other websites. There is so much information out there, it would take years to sift through it all. All she has to do is read, we don't need to know anything from her to advise her of the dangers of programs.
Stop the negative vibes
This is a progrma survivor forum mainly where people post about imprisonment, torture, mind rape, abuse, shit like that. The topic is what breeds negative vibes. This isnt a forum about our favorite vacations at Disneyland.
and welcome the mum over here, she'll only find out what her options are if she feels comfortable talking about the problem,
From what she said, the only problem is her own ignorance. That is solved through education and reading. What point is a thread, so all the fornits experts can bash her about what an idiot she is for considering programs? What purpose would that service, come on.
not everyone's as thickerd skinned as me and will plough on regardless,
That's a shame that they take their child's welfare so lightly. They should take more responsibility about who they entrust their loved ones too. I know I do, but then again I've seen what seemingly nice people are capable of behind closed doors.
you're venomous comments aren't going to encourage her to post here or even read further than what she sees in this thread!
Good. Better she doesn't read what is posted here. This is us just bullshitting late on a saturday night about this mother. If you haven't realized this is what happens on fornits on a daily basis, you are never going to figure it out I am afraid. You don't need a group of people trying to convince you that programs are bad, when an entire website is filled with first person tales telling as much, along with dozens of other websites warning the same thing.
use your common sense and help me to help this girl and her family work it out without her ending up dead in some wilderness program
You can save a generic email with two dozen good links, a general write up about the dangers of programs and the alternatives. Then save that file and when you see a potential program parent post on ST or somewhere else, email that to them. That's what I do, and it works fine. I never post parents family problems on this forum (unless I am making fun of them) or tell them to start a thrad here. I hate this forum sometimes because of the tone, and I am a program survivor. I dont think this is the forum to see as an activism forum, or advice forum to bring parents to. I think it's a forum where people who were burned by an insidious and abusive industry congregate because it's the busiest bar so to speak, and the most lively. If you walk into a biker bar wanting to find out why your son joined the local gang, would you expect them to sit down with you and have tea and crumpits and turn down the music? I wouldn't. Take it for what it is, don't assume it's anything more though... it could backfire!
jees you make me so fucking mad sometimes.
That's what I'm here for.