Try another Castle:
It could be as simple as some people are more "gullible" than others. We know this to be true by this simple test: Ever try playing a practical joke on two different friends , and part of that practical joke is to try to trick them into believing something? While one friend is quick to believe you, meanwhile the other friend is giving you the eye like your full of shit. Yet the first friend goes looking for the item that was there that ye tried to trick him/her about.
In saying that.what defines the friend that believes you quickly is "who they are" or their "identity", of course their are other factors involved such as: how long they have known ye as a friend, what the state of your current relationship is etc.....
In cases of abuse: Somtimes the abused choose to "identify" with the abusers for a few different reason: safety, meaning in hopes they will stopped being abused, fear, abusive themselves
this is a great discussion...thanks for bringing this discussion to see the light of day from your dark corner TAC, I appreciate it very much, as there are lots of points to take into consideration on this matter.
In my humble opinion I do not feel that ye should drink this thought away, b/c it is obviously an important part of your deprogramming , otherwise it would not be burning inside of you.
I have found in my personal deprogramming it has been extrememly
important to pay attention to my body, because my body seems to tell me what to do. So, when questions burned inside me and when they still do, I seek the answers for them, so that I may answer them and then put them to rest, but not forget them.
warm regards,
_DP 8-)
Interesting thoughts DP. I'm not sure if it's gullibility, though. I was certainly gullible enough to believe in the program. Wholeheartedly. And I have a tendency to be highly suggestible. Yet I found my way out of it, although my first girlfriend was the first to verbalize the issue in such a way that I could make some sense out of the conflict I had been feeling for about two years. Yet there are others who, for whatever reason, will not grok the criticism of the program, no matter how many ways they are spoken to about it.
There are people who come around. I mean, I came around, and it took another person to point out how what I had went through was fucked up, even though she had never gone through it herself. I could have been defensive and just not listened to her, but I didn't, because there was so much conflict within me already about it. Right after I got out, I mentioned something about agreements to the first woman I slept with, and she said "That kinda sounds full of shit. That's a total euphemism for rules. They were still rules." and my response was "Well, you weren't there, you don't understand." There was that defensiveness. Yet, two years later, I'm discussing similar things with my girlfriend, and she says something along the same lines about the hypocrisy of the program, and THAT TIME, it resonated with me, and I thought "Wow, that makes sense." I am fully confident that if she had said that right when I got out, I would have had the defensive reaction I had to the prior conversation about agreements.
So... over a period of a few years, something happened to me. I may have still on the surface felt that the place was good, but my identity was in such conflict with the teachings of the program that there were lots of cracks in the armor. It got to the point where I started to think about things differently. That's when the conscious deprogramming began.
I wonder if there is that inner conflict for programmies? Even if it's denied and repressed? Is there an X factor, or a combination of X factors? Is the identify compromised, or has it assimilated the program and changed as a result?
I'm not an essentialist. I don't believe that identity is unchanging and non negotiable. Sure, there are things that are hard-wired, you are not born a blank slate. (Anyone who has had a kid can attest to that.) You are definitely NOT a chrome ball. Identity evolves. Maybe I'm stating the obvious. I'm wondering a.) was there something implicit in a programmie's identity going into the experience that made them predisposed to embracing it for decades? b.) Did the act of embracing the program cause an actual change in identity, as opposed to a repression of it? c.) If b. is yes, does a. have to be yes, too?
Of course, this addresses the question of identity as a whole. Is one person at one time the same person at another?
All I know is, when I read John Locke in college, he confused the hell out of me. I just read some passages again a few minutes ago and I'm still nonplussed. So maybe I don't really know what I'm talking about, since I kind of have a half-baked understanding about what identity is anyway. I know one thing, it is not what CEDU taught us. That whole "who you are as a person" summit contract. As if identity could be defined in two words with your signature at the bottom.
"Who are you?"
"Jerri Blank"
"No... whooooooo aaaaaaaarrreee yoooouuuu?"
"Jeeeeeeeeerrrrrriiiii Bbbbbllllaaaaaannnk!"
I guess what it boils down to for me is, if there IS a reason, is it a trait, (such as being gullible) a combination of traits, or something more deeply embedded in a person's personae?
I would hope a person wouldn't let go. How can people turn their back on something like CEDU and pretend it never happened?
I meant that I should "let it go" regarding badgering mad. (Jury's still out on that.) I
would like to hear what he has to say about all that has been mentioned since his last post, though.