Requesting Parents' Assessment of Hyde School

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gary eskow:
I can't tell you how much it means to me that you folks took the time to read my story, and have responded with such kind words.

I hold no rancarous feelings towards anyone connected with Hyde, including that buffoon-ish, but somehow admirabl guy, Joe Gauld.

Funny, I called Mike Dawes- who I like so much and have enjoyed such a respectful relationship with- to wish him a happy holiday, and he could, it seemed to me, barely tolerate a cordial conversation. So much for truth before harmony! Mike, I love ya!

Our son, by the way, just completed his first semester at Hofstra with all A's and B's, although he still parties too much for my taste.
Tonight, his mom's out for dinner with her sis, and so he asked me for $10 for dinner, which I gave it to him- with the qualifier that he tell me I'm the best dad ever... fortunately, he gets my sense of humor. Wish Joe G. had been blessed with one!

peace,

G

Anonymous:

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--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---This morning I have spent time trying to locate information about the Hyde School. I found this web site pretty quickly by doing a Google search. Most of the comments I read here are very troubling. When I read Hyde's official material I got the impression that the school focuses heavily on values and character. Reading this web site, however, I'm beginning to get a very different, and troubling, picture of Hyde. Many of the comments I read on this site suggest that there's a disturbing side to Hyde and that many people have had very negative experiences (not everyone, it appears, but many). Many people who post here seem to be troubled especially by the school's founder, Joe Gauld, along with some other Hyde staff.

I am very eager for more information, especially current information, about what kind of school Hyde REALLY is, the positive and negative. I would appreciate it if people would post serious comments. (I prefer to avoid the sillier and more juvenile comments.)

Thank you.
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I encourage any parent who is considering Hyde for their child to ask some hard, pointed questions about the school. I STRONGLY recommend that you avoid taking the school's publications and admissions rhetoric at face value. Hyde is a very controversial school run by very controversial people. You will find some families that like Hyde and, I guarantee you, many families that are horrified by what they've experienced at Hyde.

I think you should seek out people who have been at Hyde for some time, including those who like the school and those who don't. Ask probing questions about the use of intimidation tactics, requirements to self-disclose on group meetings (parents and students), the quality of mental health staff and services (I don't think there are any), the academic qualifications of the teachers, the number of people who leave Hyde every year, enrollment trends, the number of Hyde graduates who actually finish (not start) college, the influence of Joe Gauld.

This is the information I wish I'd known.
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I ditto that. I also wish I had known. :"(

Anonymous:

--- Quote from: ""gary eskow"" ---I can't tell you how much it means to me that you folks took the time to read my story, and have responded with such kind words.

I hold no rancarous feelings towards anyone connected with Hyde, including that buffoon-ish, but somehow admirabl guy, Joe Gauld.

Funny, I called Mike Dawes- who I like so much and have enjoyed such a respectful relationship with- to wish him a happy holiday, and he could, it seemed to me, barely tolerate a cordial conversation. So much for truth before harmony! Mike, I love ya!

Our son, by the way, just completed his first semester at Hofstra with all A's and B's, although he still parties too much for my taste.
Tonight, his mom's out for dinner with her sis, and so he asked me for $10 for dinner, which I gave it to him- with the qualifier that he tell me I'm the best dad ever... fortunately, he gets my sense of humor. Wish Joe G. had been blessed with one!

peace,

G
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Gary, have to tell you that no matter what your feelings are about hyde, whether positive or negative, you stand for what Hyde is supposed to be about. The fact that you are speaking up and not hiding your identity is admirable! I wish I had as much courage to do so, but I feel that Hyde is vendictive and not really about "truth over harmony" so am concerned about giving my name. As you see from Mike Dawes, you are either with them or against them. He is not unlike any of the others. Hyde probably put pressure on him not to talk to you no matter what kind of relationship you had with him. Don't forget, these people need their jobs but in the end they are cowards by not standing up for themselves.

gary eskow:
Thank you. There is certainly a cowardly streak in many of the folks who work at Hyde, but I tend to think about their inability to confront Joe more in terms of what appears to be a collectively stunted emotional state. Duncan, for example, was clearly terrified of challenging Joe. Judy Fortier- a fundamentally kind hearted and well meaning person- seemed to me to have walled off huge sections of her personality, and sacrificed a positive self image to the worth she derives as a member of the Hyde squad.

But there is good work being done as well there, and somehow there has to be a way to improve Hyde. The best thing Malcolm and Laura Gauld could do, in my opinion, would be to acknowledge their mistakes and reach out to those they have harmed for advice. Sounds like Bush in Iraq, though, and probably just as improbable for them to acknowledge the horrific misjudgments they have made!

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