I have never said my son's ADHD is an excuse for his behaviour, not at all, in fact entirely the opposite, he often tries to use it as an excuse and I will not have it
However, having ADHD does lead to frutration for my son when he can't grasp certain things, in his report it is described as cognitive behaviour? I'll be able to find out more what that means tomorrow when I see the assessor
ADHD does not mean swinging off the ceiling lights at all, often ADHD children are quiet, have no self esteem, cannot look another person in the eye, avoids contact with others (especially adults) because they feel worthless and stupid, this is the case with my son, I am the only person he trusts & feels comfortable enough with to scream & swear at, the fact that he has spent his school years up until this year being called thick, naughty, stupid hasn't helped much either
I was indeed saying when i spoke to the police about it, that he didn't comprehend that alot of my son's frustrations and inability to control compulsive and irrational behaviour are due to ADHD (don't blame me, it is written in the report as diagnosed by a psychologist) although his medication does help these compulsive outbursts a little
Whoever said that I need therapy is right, you've got it bang on, because I am the one who is cracking under the strain, I am the one who deals with the backlash of bad behaviour even though I cannot get help, saying that, you are wrong in me wanting sympathy etc, it's not sympathy I want it is help, so i came to a forum to get an understanding from children and adults alike who have been where my boys are right now, it seems I was mistaken in thinking you may actually want to use your experiences to help another child, instead you use them to attack the very person who wants to help them, wouldn't it have been nice if someone had wanted to help you guys?? But, I was asking too much, I apologise for thinking you may sympathise with what my boys must be feeling and going through, and want to help them through me, it was a bad judgement error on my behalf
Guest I have been looking to move for a while now, these things don't just happen overnight, so yes I have been looking at properties that are remote, mainly because the boys will have nowehere to go at night in order to get into trouble, that is how serious I am about getting help, I will uproot my life and move (Not to Amish though, forget it)
Why is it alleged? "Toss in alleged total absence of private doctors - medical or psychiatric, no local programs to address issues" what would be my reason to lie about this, I am not getting the help, end of, believe what you like, you obviously have a much clearer understanding of the situation and resources available for me than I do
I do not want a magic solution and you make it sound as if I all of a sudden want help, I fought for 8 years to get my 13 yr old assessed, if I had a magic wand it would be wonderful, but I don't, the solution can't even be considered until I fully understand the problem, this is where I am facing the hurdles, I can't get anyone to see my son to tell me what the hell is wrong with him to even begin to start working on helping him work through this with hopefully a positive outcome for him.
Deborah, did I sound duped by DR Shithead? No! I told him/her that I was aware of the stirring they were trying to do and to get lost, if you see that as being duped then you have the problem not me.