Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Ridge Creek School / Hidden Lake Academy
Public Displays of Caring/Empathy
Anonymous:
Outside of group... it really depends on the situation.
When I was a counselor there I typically encouraged my students to comfort each other and be there for each other when they were going through a difficult time. There were times, however, that when someone was in the moment of crying that I would prefer their friend to wait for a bit to comfort them. If I didn't allow them to comfort their friend in that moment I would always try to go back to the friend and let them know why I made that decision and let them know that their friend could still use comforting. Of course, there are other times when the counselor just needs to let the friends be there for each other and take a back seat in the situation. It really all depends on what is going on at the time.
Again, it takes someone with knowledge, skill, and sensitivity to handle these situations appropriately. That is why it is so important to have qualified counselors. Otherwise you just have people who go by the book all the time and don't know how to manage a situation in the correct manner.
RobertBruce:
Qualified counselors? You mean the kind who done went to skool and stuff?
I'm sorry those aren't the type of people wanted at hla, seek employment elsewhere.
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---Outside of group... it really depends on the situation.
When I was a counselor there I typically encouraged my students to comfort each other and be there for each other when they were going through a difficult time. There were times, however, that when someone was in the moment of crying that I would prefer their friend to wait for a bit to comfort them. If I didn't allow them to comfort their friend in that moment I would always try to go back to the friend and let them know why I made that decision and let them know that their friend could still use comforting. Of course, there are other times when the counselor just needs to let the friends be there for each other and take a back seat in the situation. It really all depends on what is going on at the time.
Again, it takes someone with knowledge, skill, and sensitivity to handle these situations appropriately. That is why it is so important to have qualified counselors. Otherwise you just have people who go by the book all the time and don't know how to manage a situation in the correct manner.
--- End quote ---
I agree with what you've stated. I take issue with kids being put on restrictions or threatened with restrictions for showing sympathy towards other kids. Perhaps that a strong indicator of a lack of qualified training on the counselor's behalf or a power play by staff?
Anonymous:
I agree with you, that it shows a lack of qualified staff and you are right that it is sometimes a power play by the staff.
I also agree that it is wrong to threaten restrictions in this situation. I believe that most kids just want to help their friend. It should be used as a teaching moment, not as a punishment.
RobertBruce:
Former counselor would mind picking a username? It doesnt have to connect to you at all just something to make communication easier.
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