On 2006-06-13 06:32:00, TheWho wrote:
" Get one of the heavy hitters of this board (TSW, DJ, Deborah, Eudora, MSMF) in contact with the mother. Over the phone.
I would advise against this. Do not give your friends phone number to anyone. There are some who will try to persuade her by yelling and using foul language if she doesn?t agree with them and this will not help your friend, parents don?t respond well to this type of discussion.
The other advice you have received seems to be good, point her towards some of the web sites/links others here have mentioned, which will give her more information and time to think things thru.
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Who,
I resent the implication. Come clean, which of the people mentioned do you believe would yell and use foul language in order to 'persuade' this mother?
Laura Lee,
Based on what you've said about her mother, it doesn't sound hopeful.
All you can do is present the risks, explain the methods and techniqes, share your personal experience; as matter-of-factly as possible. You might direct her to
63 days
http://www.63days.com/ Bacon court document, posted here
Brooke Adams article on Ian August's death posted here
List of deaths in wilderness, etc.
Doesn't sound like this woman is rational, so it's likely to fall on deaf ears.
If that's the case, coach your friend on how to best survive the ordeal. Explain in great detail what she can expect so there aren't any big surprises. Share any tips you learn to make it easier or less stressful. Let her know that you'll be there to listen when she returns. Give her a piece of reality to hold onto during her 'adventure' to the surreal world of wilderness treatment.
I know the frustration. My neighbor sent her son to wilderness after ample warning. He didn't return from that experience. Sometimes there is nothing to do but watch and grieve.
