I also feel you are entitled to your opinion,but, I do not hate saying it. I thank you for posting it, so others can learn.
I also ask "where are the parents?". But, the parents cannot spend 24 hrs a day in close physical contact with the child. At 11AM on a schoolday, they are likely working so the family has food on the table, a roof over their heads, and cars to get them around. Parents have many responsiblities to juggle. Where do I think the kids get it from? The complete society around them , not just the parents, not just the peers. parents try to help the kids make good choices. They were kids once, too. They often have perspective as a child and as an adult.
I have seen parents comfortable with daughters dressed like hookers, but far more parents that told the daughters "no", and why.As for the mini hookers, the kids merely kept clothes elsewhere and changed after leaving home.
I think searching the child's stuff is a last resort. Teenagers need to learn respect for others property, to invade theirs teaches the opposite. I don't wish myself or my children to live in a world of spying.
And last, I am the last person to say "lock them up" I was trying to convey what can lead to a loving parent sending a child to a joint like HLA. I pointed out I was no fan, and I am not. A child screaming at the mother until the mother's head physically shakes, is a truly terrifying thing to behold. It gets to where the mom has stress syndrome, and she cannot parent then. When you love them both, it is very hard, you have to think of all of you, not just one. They are excruciating questions, and good parents try their utmost to never shirk their duties as parents. They sometimes fail, they are human-but they do their utmost. And where's the Dad? often the moms are single, often dad is at work, and often dad steps in, there are many scenarios. Often dad comes home later, and simply cannot believe his wife and child could have had such a thing happen. There are no simple answers.
