Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > CEDU / Brown Schools and derivatives / clones
Smushing?
AuntieEm2:
castle wrote:
--- Quote ---Yes. Nothing like some no-boundaries affection.
--- End quote ---
You know, this is really serious. Makes me very angry that this was done to you. Forced physical or sexual advances are not okay. It is, in fact, legally classified as sexual abuse. Add the power differential into the equation, and in many, if not all, parts of the country this is sexual assault.
No emotional boundaries, no sexual/physical boundaries. No Boundaries County, ID.
If you don't mind my asking, how does this translate into personal relationships post-program?
Auntie Em
alia23:
i have been being told for years that i dont have boundaries and could never figure it out. i think this is probably why.
i can't verbalize it really.... but i feel like an internal alarm goes off if i try to express a boundary, an alarm that screams "YOU DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO REJECT ANYONE!!!!!!!! IF YOU REJECT, YOU WILL BE REJECTED!!!!!!!! YOU MUST ACCEPT ANYTHING THAT CROSSES YOUR PATH AS YOUR DUTY IN LIFE TO ACCEPT, OTHERWISE YOU WILL SPEND YOUR WHOLE LIFE ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!"
something like that.....
you see why i only use small case now.... cause i hate caps, they mean yelling to me, so i dont use them.
there is some good to being unjudgemental, but as you can see this is a real exhaggeration. but you are lucky that i am going thru this stuff now, cause i would not have been able to verbalize these things a year ago, and a year from now, i probably won't want to.
best to you, i am glad you are doing what you are doing.
alia
dishdutyfugitive:
What comes to mind is how alienated and alone you feel right after you graduate.
You go from 2 1/2 years of daily full excessive smoosh contact to nothing.
We probably told other students/staff that we 'loved' them at least 5 times a day.
shanlea:
Alia: It is still good you wrote to them, because even if they feel that way now, it might plant a seed... for later or for hindsight.
Builderall:
The whole 'smushing' thing at RMA was a horrible experience for and I simply refused to be apart of it. I was young,16, and one of the prettier ones that got absolutely harrassed and because of my refusal to participate I got punished over and over again and put on bans from anybody I had made friends with. I was told again and again how I obviously was to good for everyone there and I was really just the biggest loser of all and simply because I refused to lau down with grown men and have the 'cuddle' me....the women too. (Caroline Wolff I hope rots in hell) . RMA was a very sick place and I was a lucky one to have 'escaped' as I ran away twice and my parents were so upset (as they had been the day they dropped me off and realized what a fucked up place they had been conned into sending me by an education consultant from Atlanta that got kickbacks for each kid she sent there)
Anyway I post this because of recent I came across a facebook page on RMA and my horrible memories cam flooding back even 25 years later and I too get so incredibly pissed off about that place. Oh I have with out a doubt moved on and did within a couple weeks of returning from that hell hole but my life was never quite the same.
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