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sexual misconduct
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-04-27 19:36:00, Anonymous wrote:
"I was propositioned by the same teacher to whom "Sue" is referring, the one who ostensibly slept with another student whose parents then sued the school in the 1970's. Although I did not take him up on his offer, it was harmful and has remained with me for years. I never told my parents or anyone else at the school.
I recall the student asking the dorm proctor for permission to go to his apartment in the New Dorm for math tutoring during study hall. This occurred repeatedly in the evening while his wife was at play practice in the Student Union.
The same teacher used to make a sexual joke with his math class about how his wife liked his "right angles." It was common knowledge.
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Thank you for being so honest about what happened to you at Hyde. Was Hyde or some of the staff aware that this Mr T was propositioning the female students? If they did know, did they take any action? At what point did they take action? Was Mr T at Hyde for very long?
Sorry for all the questions or asking you to relive what happened to you, but am very curious if Hyde has changed at all. I know they did not take the situation with Mr Dubinsky seriously even when several girls reported how uncomfortable he made them feel.
Anonymous:
I cannot say how much the administrators knew about the teacher's behavior prior to the summer when he left the school after the girl's parents reported his sexual misconduct.
I do know, however, that there were other inappropriate male comments made to girls about their bodies in general, and some girls were put on diets arbitarily. Seemed odd to have a male teacher weighing in all these teenage girls. The wrestlers taught the girls how to get their weight down for these weigh-ins by using laxatives. The weight loss was totally unsupervised. The teachers said to lose so many pounds and the girls were expected to do it with no guidance. They had to eat the same high starch food in the dining room as everyone else and weigh in once a week. After weighing in on a weekend morning, they headed to the dining room for french toast or pancakes with lots of syrup. Hyde was really good at teaching the binge-purge cycle.
Anonymous:
Once, while walking up the wood steps going toward the back entrance of the mansion, I was in front of a particular male teacher, who is now deceased. Because of the nature of steps and his position behind me, he had full view of my rear end. This occassioned a rude comment from him to me about my body. I was horrified, humiliated, ashamed. This was years ago, and it still stings. I am not sure if anyone at the school at the time really thought this kind of comment was out of line. The damage that can do to an adolescent girl is very real and deep, especially when the comment comes from a teacher. When this teacher died, Laura Gauld wrote a glowing piece about him in some Hyde publication, about how wonderful his influence was on students and teachers. I was so sad when I read it. His influence on me was anything but wonderful.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-04-27 20:58:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Once, while walking up the wood steps going toward the back entrance of the mansion, I was in front of a particular male teacher, who is now deceased. Because of the nature of steps and his position behind me, he had full view of my rear end. This occassioned a rude comment from him to me about my body. I was horrified, humiliated, ashamed. This was years ago, and it still stings. I am not sure if anyone at the school at the time really thought this kind of comment was out of line. The damage that can do to an adolescent girl is very real and deep, especially when the comment comes from a teacher. When this teacher died, Laura Gauld wrote a glowing piece about him in some Hyde publication, about how wonderful his influence was on students and teachers. I was so sad when I read it. His influence on me was anything but wonderful.
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I read your post and I have feelings of sadness, (for you) anger, and resentment. I had a similar experience at Hyde and it actually went a little further with the male teacher. Truth be told, a school cannot always monitor every single thing a teacher does throughout the day, but in my case the school absolutely knew and chose to ignore it, hoping I would go away. There was never a doubt that many of the top administrators were aware of the innappropriate behavior of this staff member. It makes me sick to hear that there was a pattern of this reaction by the school for years. My feeling and the feelings of other students who went to school with me is that Hyde only cares about covering their butts when necessary.
Don't be upset with yourself for remaining silent. I didn't remain silent and it didn't make a difference. Those teachers who are still at Hyde School, and who know about these abuses and do nothing,(you know who you are) should be the ones who feel ashamed. Ashamed that they allowed these things to go on, and ashamed that they live with this knowledge and still do nothing!
Thanks for sharing your story. I would love to know how you are doing now. Are you still angry? Do you still feel the betrayal that I do?
Anonymous:
I am sorry for your painful experiences at Hyde.
Yes, I still feel anger and betrayal, but wish I could let it go.
No, I do not feel I should have said anything, b/c it would only have been turned back on me somehow and wouldn't have helped anyone else.
Mostly, I am worried about teens who are still being hurt and who don't even know it, because they have bought into the place and the people as I did. I am sure there are some people who Hyde helps, but I can't see that as a justification for the level of harm done there. Of course, inappropriate behavior goes on at all schools to some extent. However, in my experience, we are talking about more than that with regard to the pernicious patterns of adult behaviors at Hyde.
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