Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Hyde Schools
sexual misconduct
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-03-05 18:18:00, Anonymous wrote:
"It would be great if Sabina came to this board to let us know how she feels. I bet she wouldn't feel so wonderful about being taken advantage of by an authoritative person who she trusted. I also would be interested in knowing how the girl who Joe Gauld had an affair with, (allegedly) feels now that she is grown up. Does anyone know how to get in touch with any of these girls? Not that they would want to talk about it, but would be very interesting to see how they feel after the betrayal at such a young age."
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I don't know Sabina who was taken advantage of by a teacher, or the girl involved with Joe Gauld, but I do know about the girl who was molested by Mr Dubinsky. The school handled it the same way as they always do, hush, hush, get the family outta there!
I suppose this "great defender" of Hyde will say that these things happen and it is normal.
Anonymous:
This Dubinsky would't be Larry who is also a Hyde graduate?
Sid
Anonymous:
Yes, the same Larry Dubinsky who went to Hyde along with his wife Donna. He was fired from the school after all the controversy with sexual harassment. I heard that his wife Donna eventually divorced him and he is now working at a local store. The only credentials he had to work at the school was that he was a former graduate.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-03-05 20:17:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Yes, the same Larry Dubinsky who went to Hyde along with his wife Donna. He was fired from the school after all the controversy with sexual harassment. I heard that his wife Donna eventually divorced him and he is now working at a local store. The only credentials he had to work at the school was that he was a former graduate."
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Do any of you think Hyde is interested in improvement by understanding how many people they have hurt? Do you think they are interested in hearing or reading about the harm they have caused? Is Joe or Malcolm Gauld capable of change?
I think it is beneficial for Hyde to understand that although they might have helped a handful with each graduating class, there are so many more that have not been helped as you can see from this website. We are hearing more and more people speak out about the lasting negative affect Hyde has had on their lives. I for one feel ashamed. Ashamed that I allowed Hyde to push me into being a bully and a snitch. I thought I was doing the right thing by following the program, but I now realize the harm I could have inflicted.
Yes there are some Hyde Followers but when looking at who they are there is a pattern. Many of them are former students and parents who need a religion or cult to function. The few Hapa(alumni) parents who I know are either recovering addicts, completely dysfunctional, or emotionally crippled. I now look back at the seminars and realize how each HAPA parent who facilitated them displayed very odd behavior. Most were not functioning adults. These are not people who have been HELPED by Hyde, but instead they are being HELD by Hyde. Does this make sense to any of you?
Would love to hear how others feel about Hyde and about what I have expressed.
FHS:
On 2006-03-05 22:42:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Do any of you think Hyde is interested in improvement by understanding how many people they have hurt? Do you think they are interested in hearing or reading about the harm they have caused? Is Joe or Malcolm Gauld capable of change?"
I don't think that they are capable of perceiving the incidents and emotions described on this website as "hurt" or "harm;" I think they tell themselves that these types of revelations are an expected and, in fact, healthy byproduct of Hyde's challenge to everyone to realize their best. I think they tell themselves that the complainants have sadly failed to respond with requisite character to the challenges that Hyde School has presented to them.
Therefore, I think that they see no reason to change in response to these revelations. To the contrary, I think they tell themselves it's everyone else (e.g., complaining former students, faculty, parents, the rest of society) that needs to change. For example, see Joe's letter to Hyde parents:
(see http://fornits.com/wwf/viewtopic.php?to ... 160#149627 )
"Isn't Hyde Ever Wrong?"
"Of course Hyde is sometimes wrong. ... However, I think the question implies that maybe the parent and not Hyde knows better about a given situation ... This question simply does not respect the role Hyde is supposed to play in the family structure. Since kids-and their parents-have been far more immersed in this counter growth culture than has Hyde, Hyde can be far more objective about how to best address the true final judge on growth issues. We are in a better position than parents to determine a student's true best, and further we consider our commitment to help each student realize that best a sacred truth."
On 2006-03-05 22:42:00, Anonymous wrote:
"We are hearing more and more people speak out about the lasting negative affect Hyde has had on their lives. I for one feel ashamed. Ashamed that I allowed Hyde to push me into being a bully and a snitch. I thought I was doing the right thing by following the program, but I now realize the harm I could have inflicted ... Does this make sense to any of you? Would love to hear how others feel about Hyde and about what I have expressed."
What you expressed makes perfect sense to me.
It's far more pleasant for me to experience feelings of anger toward Hyde than it is to experience my feelings of shame. I, too, feel ashamed of having caused harm, or at least increasing the potential for harm, to students and parents. I, too, feel ashamed of having been in thrall of Hyde School. I've been carrying those feelings around with me for a long time.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Former Hyde Staffer
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