On 2006-01-03 17:18:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Is there a study showing these pills actually make people happier?"
They don't make me happy. That's not their job. Happiness is up to me and how I live my life, and realistic reactions to whatever's going on in my life.
If a loved one died, I would not want to be happy no matter what and unable to grieve. Thank goodness antidepressants don't cause that.
All I want, and what I've got, is *proportional* non-depressed reactions to the events in my life. Reactions that see disasters or nastiness by other people or bad things that happen in life as about the same level of bad anyone healthy would feel if that happened to them.
What I want, and what I've got, is that if someone does something that pisses me off and it was just an accident or thoughtless, I don't think they did it on purpose just to piss me off when they didn't. At the same time, if someone really *is* messing with me, I can tell.
I don't want euphoria, I don't want depression, I want euthymia---the "true" mood. Which means I react proportionally to the happy things and to the sad things.
It means I don't bite people's heads off or burst into tears over stupid nonsense---but I do bite people's heads off or burst into tears if the situation warrants it. I don't turn away the outreached hand of someone well-meaning who just brushed me up the wrong way, and I don't make myself a doormat to the genuinely, maliciously obnoxious people that unfortunately everyone occasionally runs into.
Antidepressants are what they say they are. They make you not depressed.
They aren't supposed to make you happy.
No reasonable person would *want* the antidepressant to make them "happy."
I want to seek (and have mostly found) happiness myself, through rewarding close relationships and work I enjoy and limiting the technicolor drama in my life.
All I want from the antidepressants, and what I get, is to not feel horrible kill-myself-just-to-make-it-stop pain for no damned reason.
Making the extreme pain for no damned reason stop is enough. It's all I ever wanted from meds---was to be, emotionally, pretty much like everybody else. To react proportionally and sanely to happy, sad, frustrating, encouraging, or neutral things in my life.
Julie