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HYDE School: Follow Your Own Advice and Heal Thyself

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Lars:
You know, after I first started posting here, I had somewhat optimistically hoped that anyone who disagreed might be willing to engage in a civil constructive dialogue.  With a few notable exceptions, this hasn't been the case.  Getting to vent was cathartic, but some of the stuff we're seeing from the Hyde folks is just disheartening.  As a Hyde graduate, I have to say it's an embarrassment that so many people who shared the same experience can't engage in constructive dialogue or even keep from insulting people.  Talking about about Hyde has made me reflect on my experience there in ways that I haven't in years.  It wasn't all bad, and I certainly respect that many of the people there truly cared about helping kids.  But what I'm seeing from the most of pro-Hyde types leads me to believe that my memories and opinions are dead on.  

And that just makes me sad.  I've even thought about going back to see people there, to say hey, I really didn't like it there and I think many of the things that go on there are harmful, but I respect the principles and that yes, at least they care.  Now, I just don't know.  Maybe I should just forget about the whole business.  I just don't know.  After all, 15 years later, maybe it just doesn't matter all that much.  I know who am & what I believe in.  It was only three years, however miserable they were.  And so we all move on...

Anonymous:
I've had civil arguments with you on this web site but in general, I agree.  I haven't been impressed with peoples' willingness to hear the criticism and respond respectfully.  It's disappointing.  I wish that more people would speak up in a non-condescending and positive way.  I know people have to be out there... I mean, I'm out here.  I loved my time at Hyde and feel like I really grew up there.  If Hyde was good for you and your family, then why is it so hard for others to come and talk about that?

For me, I hear much of what is being said.  My biggest reaction to Hyde was not about that stuff.  Before Hyde, I passed classes because I was good at taking tests.  When I got to Hyde, they helped me develop my work ethic, which helped me do well at a good college.  I made good friends, some of whom I kept in touch with over the years.  I liked many of the faculty members and used the seminars to work on family issues, which seemed to get better as a result of Hyde.  It isn't for everyone and is certainly more confrontational that I would have enjoyed.  I've heard that recently they've toned much of that down-- is it true that students don't direct the 5:30s anymore, etc.?  I think that much of what isn't liked about the school stems from peoples' unhappiness with internal hypocrisy, which feels to me like something that could and should change.  Do others feel like something is there that is worth maintaining?  Are people quiet because they don't want this web site to get more attention?

katfacehead89:
These points are so accurate and so insightful.

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