Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Hyde Schools
Looking for alternative to Hyde School
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-10-30 02:37:00, Anonymous wrote:
"You talk about what would happen at Hyde should they suspect you are thinking of leaving. The parents don't get nearly as much grief and abuse as the kids. Hyde totally puts undue pressure on the kids if you announce you might be looking for an alternative to Hyde. You are right that they will accuse you of having an attitude problem and make your life a living hell! Not worth it. You are better off keeping your thought hidden! Please tell me this is not the sign of a Cult!!! You can't tell me because Hyde DOES operate like a Cult!"
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This is exactly what I've observed at Hyde. Parents who announce that they're unhappy with the school and plan to leave are often subjected to a great deal of pressure. I've heard of people being accused by Hyde staff of being weak, unwilling to examine their own issues, lacking character, etc. It's not unusual for Hyde staff, and even other parents, to point fingers, confront, accuse, blame, and judge. Sometimes the kids feel caught in the middle, feeling pressured by Hyde to convince their parents to change their minds. Of course, it's that kind of emotional abuse and manipulation that leads many people to leave Hyde.
Anonymous:
Sounds like a lot of whining going on here.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-14 17:01:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Sounds like a lot of whining going on here."
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You may call it whining if you wish. I call it inappropriate, condescending, patronizing and manipulative behavior. So do many, many others.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-10-30 02:37:00, Anonymous wrote:
"You talk about what would happen at Hyde should they suspect you are thinking of leaving. The parents don't get nearly as much grief and abuse as the kids. Hyde totally puts undue pressure on the kids if you announce you might be looking for an alternative to Hyde. You are right that they will accuse you of having an attitude problem and make your life a living hell! Not worth it. You are better off keeping your thought hidden! Please tell me this is not the sign of a Cult!!! You can't tell me because Hyde DOES operate like a Cult!"
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What you describe here is virtually identical to our experience. One of the things we've noticed about Hyde is that there's so little trust. So many parents and students seem concerned about being judged by staff and other parents that they are reluctant to open up. Sure, some parents let it all hang out. But many others play the Hyde game in order to survive the experience. Mistrust hangs in the air at Hyde like a dense fog.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-14 18:36:00, Anonymous wrote:
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On 2005-11-14 17:01:00, Anonymous wrote:
You may call it whining if you wish. I call it inappropriate, condescending, patronizing and manipulative behavior. So do many, many others."
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Here's my question: How do you know if its many, many others? Almost everyone who posts here is anonymous. Attrition rate at Hyde is relevant but not determinative (since there are many reasons behind attrition).
Its always nice to know you aren't alone in an experience and/or perception, but extrapolating beyond "some (students/parents)" seems to lack an empirical basis.
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