On 2005-10-21 02:59:00, Woof-a-Doof wrote:
"Once, not long ago I worked in a hospital and I told a counselor while in a personal conversation that, "I was having my second childhood." She, knowing that I had been thru Straight, looked me dead in the eye and said..."No, you are experiencing your first childhood", I was in my mid 30's at the time.
I agree, much was taken from me, almost my entire adolesence (sp). Rather than learning lessons that most learn during adolesence, I was being taught how to be "rational"...more or less I was being taught to think like a 45 y/o.
Simple things, like how to get along with the opposite sex and how to relate/date with the opposite sex. I missed it all. When conversations come up...the kinds of conversations that start off something like..."I wish I was 15-20 again" I always cringe...while others relish in the memories of thier youth, I shudder and do what I can to change the subject.
I was robbed."
I think right after I got out of Straight, the 7 years or so that I was wild was my way of extending my childhood (among other things like rebelling against/forgetting Straight). The moment I talked about picking out the dress...it was a moment I felt like a kid again, even though I was crying about my lost childhood. It was a small way to "re-experience" a moment of childhood as I would have wanted it to be back then.
But different from your experience, I guess my reaction became more of remaining stuck in childhood permanently, instead of later experiencing childhood for the first time in your 30's as you mentioned.
I also know what you mean about not learning the normal adolescent lessons because of Straight. Instead of learning how to relate to/date the opposite sex, our normal human inclinations were completely suppressed. We were taught not to look, talk to, interact with, or even think about the opposite sex.
So when I got out of Straight, I was completely at a loss on how to act around the opposite sex. I think I acted like I never had contact with them at all, as if the concept was completely new to me. It took me a long time to start to relax and to start learning how girls were really supposed to interact with boys. Yeah, that is a glaring example of how damaging losing a chunk of childhood to Straight really was.
When people talk about wanting to be a teenager again, I cringe as well, for my childhood, before, during, and after Straight was no picnic. But at the same time I always wish that I hadn't had my childhood stolen from me by Straight, and then I feel a great loss.