I know several people who attended Hyde in the last few years, because I graduated from a "normal" prep school in New England (the kind for high-achieving, self-motivated students) and we competed with Hyde CT in sports. The alumni I know all hated the school, and I had overheard worried discussions among parents in the boarding school world: "They don't have any psychologists on staff, or psychological evidence to back up these practices? That's troubling." "They way they treat sexuality and sexual activity is a little judgmental, possibly damaging."
One person in particular simply learned to parrot what she was told, to say all the right things and cry on cue and hug the father she still hates in fake-forgiveness. Now she's in a good college and back to being herself - smart, a Division 3 athlete, witty in her own quiet way, and a pot smoker (and legalization advocate, like I am, although that's another story) who writes some of her most insightful Literature essays with a joint in hand. The only satisfaction she gets from thinking about her time at Hyde is some pride that she managed to grit her teeth and get through "the bullshit" (as she calls it), and trick everyone into believing she bought into it. She was sent there because she was shy, smoked pot and went to parties during her freshman year in public high school, and (obviously) had conflict with her parents when they discovered the weekend drinking and smoking. She's still shy, still likes to drink and smoke - the only difference is, now she seems happy and confident in herself, because the conflict with her parents is gone now that she's an adult. Maybe all this just means that Hyde was not the right school for her, since it seems other students had much more serious problems that really needed addressing. However, Hyde treated her the same as every other student, instead of looking at each kid as an individual with his/her own needs, and discouraged her parents from pulling her out by calling it "failure" and "weakness" and "fear" when she begged to be moved.
On a whim, after talking with her, I Googled the school and found this board.Thank you all for sharing your experiences. After reading this and many, many other online accounts of dissatisfied students, I decided I had to post here, to give this page a "bump" in the search engines. I hope parents trying to make tough decisions about their children's lives find their way here, so they can see a variety of opinions before they place a child somewhere that may not be right for them.