On 2005-10-04 05:12:00, Anonymous wrote:
" whatever she said in group is a moot point now..she was a child like the rest of us, and god knows what was going thru her head...I do know she left straight because she finally saw the absurdity of what they were trying to teach her. She was my foster sister when she got caught making out with newton's son and she was terrified, so she quit(she was 18)..just wondering if she made it out alive and well.
I was probably a bitch towards others also, but it was expected of me, and I didn't know any better...and I told a few lies..in order to make myself appear more " regretful of my druggie life" I don't care what she did in Straight, but I do think about her and hope she is okay.."
85DJ,as usual, puts it all in prespective. Indeed, she was like that of a hurricane, with ample fury to spare. 85DJ said, "she had this
way of relating and badgering people that reeked of deperation." No doubt! Being stood up was always, as I have said a tremendious fear of mine. Having Leslie Fetrow speak "at" ya was a horrid experience. She would blast and blast away, belittling and demeaning with every breath she took and every word she uttered.
The thought of her "coming down" on me, raced thru my head a minimum of a dozen times today. I recall her gaunt face (straights absence of sunlight had a most unflattering effect on her...all of us really) with her hollowed out eyes blistering into my soul. I was afraid, hell yeah, I was mortified of her. I rember once I was stood up for "checking out the girls", and she was one of them that blasted me. I think she called me just about every name possible. But even today, although those "words" escape me now, I still can see her face, spewing her verbal assault. Haunting...very haunting.
Giving this more thought (more than what it's probably worth) I thought perhaps my post regarding Leslie was inappropriate. In short, somewhere, I felt bad about doing so. After all, she apparently had made some "friends", at least the Anonymous poster that was her foster sister appeared to have befriended her. And I thought that the original poster genuinely cared for Leslie...possibly still does. Kinda like myself when first arriving on this forum. I was also inquiring about someone when I arrived, someone who I care for. And so...I felt bad.
Then the thought occurred to me, this girl, this "child", this raving/ranting psychotic bitch fucking terrrorized me.
Now I carried this fear, this "whatever the fuck it is" around with me for an awfull long time...hell, as I said I can still see her straining face with viens bursting in her neck and forhead as she lashed out at myself and many, many others.
Now I am just suppossed to roll over and make nice....Forget all the hostility endured by her......Fuck that!
I should say, in all fairness, that this was almost 30 years ago. The memories I have of her, are some 27 years old now. They are memories of her as that "child"....and I hate and dispise that "child". If I would meet her face to face I would honestly have an open mind. At some point today I thought, I hope she is doing fine 'now'. Surely people change as a quarter of a century has passed, do they not?
Another staff member recently made an appearance here and I told him that forgiving him would be realitively easy (as I don't even recall his name or even really who he is...and we were in at the same time). But for folks like Leslie...this will be a challenge. She made a distinct impact on me, one that I won't soon forget. As I said before in an analogy; I was like freshly poured concrete and while curing, she and others just had to fuck with it and now those marks are solidified. I wish it were different, but that 'wish' doesnt change the reality.
Because in my minds eye I have seen Leslie's screaming face more times today than I have in a quarter of a century, I have got to create that look in an image. It might not be a "great" image....but then again it's inspirations arn't exactly great either. Will have to see what unfolds....I digress
Leslie, I got issues with you about shit that happened along time ago, you terrorized me and a shit load of others. These issues are of past events and past personalities and past circumstances. You are not blind to what I am saying. Come to us and apologize. Say the words, I am sorry, I was wrong. I for one will be the first to listen to all you have to say...after those words. Because, if your alive... you are one of us.
It's amazing to me how the name of one person, after a quarter of a century has passed having not thought of that name, and that one name can consume the better part of my day. Also how emotions seem un-earthed in a vulger surge, like some spontanious projectile vomiting...cathartic for the soul.
BTW Anon....Why were you expected to be a "bitch"?