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« Reply #105 on: October 12, 2005, 08:42:00 PM »
It's what the common folk say when they mean "Such is the word of God". I shit you not!

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« Reply #106 on: October 12, 2005, 08:51:00 PM »
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=word

Under the slang definition.


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« Reply #107 on: October 13, 2005, 01:13:00 PM »
?Trying to cloud it with the "well you dont know whats going on" arguement is actually proving my point. We dont know, and IF something is going on they wont tell because they dont want to get hurt again.?

Thank you for admitting you don?t know.  

?But anyway, no, I dont have first hand experience, but I know a lot of people who do. But anyway... WTF is your point? Your statement is a lot of words that doesn't say anything or make any points.?

What makes a person a valid witness? If they?ve been students and they fail to spot the pervasive abuse you rattle on about, they?re brainwashed. If they have experience working at a program and they somehow never saw or participated in torture, they?re lying or brainwashed. If they?re parents whose child came out of a program in better shape than they went in, they?re dirty rat bastards who just don?t realize the damage yet. If they?re government agents who have investigated programs and found no problems, they?re all part of a plot. Apparently anyone who has experienced programs in propria persona is simply less competent than one speaking, as you are, per rectum.

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« Reply #108 on: October 13, 2005, 04:19:00 PM »
Thanks to all that have posted in my request for information on the Anchor Academy in Havre, MT.  I have found this site very informative.  I have found the following:
1: People seem to like to generalize and have input even if they have no personal experience (shich is what I have asked for)
2: There seems to be an overabundance of attacking another's beliefs instead of respecting a differing point of view
3: A lot of people with nothing better to do than sit and condemn an entire industry (that, I admit, is fraught with abuse) when theree are examples of success and some good programs out there.
By success I mean teaching a youth how to survive and behave in a manner that is acceptable to society (at least a part of society that I want to participate in). That teaches a youth to respect others and their property as well as themselves and not degenerate to a point of self-destruction.  That believes in God (as I do) and the principles that the Bible teaches....Morality, service to others and doing good for good's sake.
4: That there are a few people out there that are willing to look at an individual program/facility with an open mind and judge it on it's own merits
5: I have seen an entire facility condemned because the director worked in the past at a school that had problems without finding out what his position was at that school...was he responsible or the abuses that were suffered there? Does that mean that everyone that worked at Enron was guilty? or that every Catholic priest is a child abuser?  Does it mean that every person that lived in Germany during WWII is guilty of participating in the Holocaust? Brother Dennis worked at a Roloff school.....does that identify his standards now or then? Or does it mean that he found employment in a less than desireable facility?  But then, I haven't researched Roloff, so I don't know for a fact what kind of place it is.

I appreciate Pastor, who tried to help make calmer heads prevail and bring a sense of calm, investigative thinking and research to this forum, only to be personally attacked, have his belief system berated and generalized beyond any sense of realism by people who can't spell, don't research or think before they speak.  I, for one would want to RUN from those that choose to bring gasoline to a fire instead of trying to find out what started the fire in the first place.

Now a little about my situation.....so you don't think that I am the type to run amok..My son, now 16, effectively left school in the 8th grade.  He reads at a college level, comprehends at a college level, does math at a 9th grade level without ever doing any studying, so he's not an idiot.  He got into drugs and started skipping school....no consequences I could mete out would have any impact on him.  I have had him in 3 inpatient programs and 3 outpatient programs and according to the last one "He could teach this stuff.  He knows what to do, he just won't do it"  The only program that effected a change in him in any way was the Catherine Freer Wilderness Program in Albany Oregon.  When he came back from that, I had my son back for about 8 months...life was great....we talked, did family things, spent time together, etc...and he admitted taht he NEEDED the structure that was provided there.  I couldn't provide the 24/7 supervision that he needed for an extended period of time until he was able to internalize the self-discipline needed to maintain.  He was aware that boarding school would be a last resort andhas know it for over a year.  I live in Washington State which is, besides beautiful, one of the worst states in the country for parental rights when it comes to dealing with children.  Here they have a program to help parents with children that are out of control called "At Risk Youth". It brings the courts into the home......there is a list of behavior standards that the parents put together for their household....the child is made aware through the courts of these standards....when a child doesn't follow the rules, they are taken to court and dealt with through sanctions such as community service, house arrest, warnings (innumerable times) and finally, detention time.  My son, in the past year has been in detention 22 times..for times ranging from 1 day to 30 days for refusing to go to court and running away for 12 days, doing drugs and stealing form me (once again).  Over the past year and a half, he has stolen over $5K in goods and cash, refuses to participate in any family functions except vacations.  We love him dearly, he loves us, but only thinks of himself and what he will get out of his actions, not what his actions are doing to him, his 5 yr old sister or the rest of the family.  He has very low self-esteem because he has not been able to complete anything in his life (except Catherine Freer....he left all the other treatment programs) adn doesn't feel he can.  I will do whatever it takes to help him succeed and accomplish/complete something in his life....except the ruiniation of his life.
I appreciate everyone's input....this is one forum that gives all forums a bad name....and is a waste of the internet.
I abhor any form of child abuse, but applaud any effort to teach children the kind of values that this wonderful country was founded on....family, God, discipline, patience, work and ethics.

As for the A.C.E. education program...I know 2-3 dozen families that utilize the same program to educate their children at home....and they all graduate from high school at a level that public schools could only dream of achieving.  They are all,  respectful, intelligent, kind and trustworthy children/young adults.  Most graduates are attending colleges and maintaining  grade levels of 3.7 or above and don't seem to be falling into the self-depracating lifestyle that we find in a lot of college students.  The families that I am familiar with are from Baptist churches, non-denominational Christian, evangelical Christian, Lutheran and even a Catholic family....Yes, they are all church going people and good people.  People that I would, and am, prouod to call friends.
Thanks.
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« Reply #109 on: October 13, 2005, 04:38:00 PM »
Has your child read these forums or researched programs? Does he realize the path he is on will lead somewhere? At the end could be an abusive program which will impact him forever. Or do you just tell him about jail and death? Those didn't scare me, If I had however knew what Straight would possibly do to me, and that was one option my parents looked at seriously. I may have changed my running away (thats all I was really doing, to escape family abuse) I may have taken a more serious look at my life.


*I brought Gasoline to this fire to show, as an example of, how this fire was started in the first place.

You have a choice to not bring your son to the fire at all. Please, I am begging you, do everything in your power to find out as much as you can about a program you choose, Your son's life depends on it. Don't just choose the "lesser of the evils" Make a chioce based on the long term effects it may cause. Have you stopped to think it's the previous programs making him act out further? That is what it did to me, and I didn't even remember/let myself remember Straight until 15+ years later. It was that horrid. Some have speculated/researched that Teens "brainwashed" in these behavior/thought reform facilities are programed to NOT remember for a period of years.

Don't give up on your child's life, because someone has dangled a pretty picture of what your son WILL be after any program. It is all propaganda to take the responsibility off you....
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« Reply #110 on: October 13, 2005, 05:11:00 PM »
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On 2005-10-13 13:19:00, Desparate Dad wrote:

"Thanks to all that have posted in my request for information on the Anchor Academy in Havre, MT.  I have found this site very informative.  I have found the following:

1: People seem to like to generalize and have input even if they have no personal experience (shich is what I have asked for)

Are you talking about physically being in the program?  Is that what you're looking for?  You know, just becuase someone wasn't at THAT place, doesn't mean they don't have bad memories of being held down in a revival tent and being told how worthless they are if they don't believe the words on the bible pages that are (sometimes literally) shoved down their throats.

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2: There seems to be an overabundance of attacking another's beliefs instead of respecting a differing point of view

Why don't you respect a differing point of view then?

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3: A lot of people with nothing better to do than sit and condemn an entire industry (that, I admit, is fraught with abuse) when theree are examples of success and some good programs out there.

Success as a result of the program, or success as a result of the kid just wising up and taking on his/her own life?  Success as a result of thinking for themselves, or "success" because they've just been beaten down so much that they don't fight anymore?  What is your idea of "success"?

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By success I mean teaching a youth how to survive and behave in a manner that is acceptable to society (at least a part of society that I want to participate in).

Oh! There we go.  The society that YOU  want to participate in.  Well what if the kid doesn't want to participate in that part of society?  Maybe the kid is fine.  Maybe he needs to be out in the real world, instead of some cloistered fabrication of someone's design in which you believe.  

How does anyone learn about the real world
in that environment?

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That teaches a youth to respect others and their property as well as themselves and not degenerate to a point of self-destruction.  That believes in God (as I do) and the principles that the Bible teaches....Morality, service to others and doing good for good's sake.

Why can't you teach this yourself?  And so what if your kid doesn't believe in God as you do?  You're going to "program" him into believing?  THAT statement ALONE is why some people around here are really pissed off.  Many around here consider that brainwashing.

This is where Al Quaeda is coming from in their argument, too.  Would you seek "treatment" for your son tomorrow, if he announced he was going to study Islam?

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4: That there are a few people out there that are willing to look at an individual program/facility with an open mind and judge it on it's own merits

This is true.  But what about those of us who have been in the earlier atrocious programs?  What would you tell a victim of a pedophile priest when he tells you that he no longer trusts priests?

I agree - there are probably decent places within "The Industry" - but damned if I can understand why you people have these kids and oust them when they just get too damned "difficult".


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5: I have seen an entire facility condemned because the director worked in the past at a school that had problems without finding out what his position was at that school...was he responsible or the abuses that were suffered there? Does that mean that everyone that worked at Enron was guilty? or that every Catholic priest is a child abuser?  Does it mean that every person that lived in Germany during WWII is guilty of participating in the Holocaust? Brother Dennis worked at a Roloff school.....does that identify his standards now or then? Or does it mean that he found employment in a less than desireable facility?  But then, I haven't researched Roloff, so I don't know for a fact what kind of place it is.

Well, read, then maybe you'll understand.  

But also - isn't it people like you who take one look at your kid's friends, and deem them worthy or unworthy based on hairstyle, tatoos, piercings, clothing style or tobacco preference??

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I appreciate Pastor, who tried to help make calmer heads prevail and bring a sense of calm, investigative thinking and research to this forum, only to be personally attacked, have his belief system berated and generalized beyond any sense of realism by people who can't spell, don't research or think before they speak.  I, for one would want to RUN from those that choose to bring gasoline to a fire instead of trying to find out what started the fire in the first place.

The research has been done.  This is the basis on which most of us speak.  

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Now a little about my situation.....so you don't think that I am the type to run amok..My son, now 16, effectively left school in the 8th grade.  He reads at a college level, comprehends at a college level, does math at a 9th grade level without ever doing any studying, so he's not an idiot.  He got into drugs and started skipping school....no consequences I could mete out would have any impact on him.  I have had him in 3 inpatient programs and 3 outpatient programs and according to the last one "He could teach this stuff.  He knows what to do, he just won't do it"  The only program that effected a change in him in any way was the Catherine Freer Wilderness Program in Albany Oregon.  When he came back from that, I had my son back for about 8 months...life was great....we talked, did family things, spent time together, etc...and he admitted taht he NEEDED the structure that was provided there.  I couldn't provide the 24/7 supervision that he needed for an extended period of time until he was able to internalize the self-discipline needed to maintain.  He was aware that boarding school would be a last resort andhas know it for over a year.  I live in Washington State which is, besides beautiful, one of the worst states in the country for parental rights when it comes to dealing with children.  Here they have a program to help parents with children that are out of control called "At Risk Youth". It brings the courts into the home......there is a list of behavior standards that the parents put together for their household....the child is made aware through the courts of these standards....when a child doesn't follow the rules, they are taken to court and dealt with through sanctions such as community service, house arrest, warnings (innumerable times) and finally, detention time.  My son, in the past year has been in detention 22 times..for times ranging from 1 day to 30 days for refusing to go to court and running away for 12 days, doing drugs and stealing form me (once again).  Over the past year and a half, he has stolen over $5K in goods and cash, refuses to participate in any family functions except vacations.  We love him dearly, he loves us, but only thinks of himself and what he will get out of his actions, not what his actions are doing to him, his 5 yr old sister or the rest of the family.  He has very low self-esteem because he has not been able to complete anything in his life (except Catherine Freer....he left all the other treatment programs) adn doesn't feel he can.  I will do whatever it takes to help him succeed and accomplish/complete something in his life....except the ruiniation of his life.

I appreciate everyone's input....this is one forum that gives all forums a bad name....and is a waste of the internet.

I abhor any form of child abuse, but applaud any effort to teach children the kind of values that this wonderful country was founded on....family, God, discipline, patience, work and ethics.

Maybe the kid is tired of living up to your expectations.  Maybe he wants to have a drink and a joint with his friends on the weekends, and his low self-esteem -as you call it- stems from knowing he's going to have to face "failing you".  

 How has he come to be so smart, when you consider him so dumb?  Just because his choices in recreation aren't jibing with yours?

Yes, I'm playing devil's advocate here.  But the fact that he's been "in trouble" tells us nothing.  I've known kids "in trouble" for taking a beer at a party, and having no effects from it, and not having their lives affected, but since they got CAUGHT, they got "in trouble" - to where the punishment doesn't fit the crime.

Yeah, I guess a lot of us here are a little sensitive when that is the case - and in a lot of cases, that's exactly it.

IF your kid TRULY has a problem - then treat the problem.... preferably by a professional.  Forget all this "low self-esteem", and "not living up to their potential" crap.  Who are you to judge that anyway?  What do you know what his "potential" is?  Maybe he's quite happy (when you step out of his way) and will figure things out on his own.


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As for the A.C.E. education program...I know 2-3 dozen families that utilize the same program to educate their children at home....and they all graduate from high school at a level that public schools could only dream of achieving.  They are all,  respectful, intelligent, kind and trustworthy children/young adults.  Most graduates are attending colleges and maintaining  grade levels of 3.7 or above and don't seem to be falling into the self-depracating lifestyle that we find in a lot of college students.  The families that I am familiar with are from Baptist churches, non-denominational Christian, evangelical Christian, Lutheran and even a Catholic family....Yes, they are all church going people and good people.  People that I would, and am, prouod to call friends.
Thanks."


I can't say anything about the cirriculum, because I don't know anything about it.  What I do know is that there is an established cirriculum here in FL for home-schooled students, and a TON of paperwork for the parents to fill out and abide.  Homeschool isn't a "self-taught" cirriculum - it's supposed to be a guided cirriculum, as in a regular school.

The fact that you want your kid to adhere to a Religious cirrculum isn't bad per se, but you really have to keep your finger on the pulse of what kids needs to be learning in order to be competitive in the real world.   IMHO, "academics" should not involve religious training at all.  Religious training is an aside.


And that's my 4 cents.
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« Reply #111 on: October 13, 2005, 05:36:00 PM »
Why don't you liberate your son. Sounds like he may be BORED as hell.

He might really excel, given the opportunity to work... which could do wonders for his self-esteem, keep him busy and off the streets, and if you charge enough for rent/transportation/food, he shouldn't have much left for buying drugs. If you require him to reimburse you for the $5000 he borrowed, in addition to room/board, he surely will not have money for drugs. Time to treat him more like a roomy than a dependent.

Catherine Freer sent you back a good actor. We'd all live 'better' lives if we lived in highly structured and rigid institutions. Lights out at ten. No TV, radio, internet. No overeating. No sleeping in. No touch, intimacy. Mandatory exercise. No distractions... just work, work, work. If you think more time in such an environment is the key, you are sorely wrong. Look at the prison recidivism rate. Locking someone away from reality doesn't help them deal with reality. You have any vices that might need treatment, dad? Say, rabid moralism?

Change occurs when the person desires change. Sometimes, the more you push externally, the futher you push them away and into destructive behavior.

Let him take on some 'adult' responsibilities. It's a bitch- very disappointing to realize that your intellegence exceeds that of your parents.
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« Reply #112 on: October 13, 2005, 06:06:00 PM »
My son has not researched these programs...and if I asked himn to, I would ask him to RESEARCH...and NOT to come to these forums that are so biased.  As for where his actions will lead him, he has plenty of examples in his life...his favorite uncle died of drug and alcohol overdose at 34....his mother is in prison (for 4 years now) for drunk driving and killing someone and will be there for another 3 years.  If you ask, yes, I have had him in counseling for 6 1/2 years since his mother and I have divorced.  He has been through 5 counselors...the most educated of all of them indicated to me (after reading the application packet of 40 pages from Anchor Academy) that the Cadillac of treatments would have been to go to Catherine Freer Wilderness for 21 days, then directly to Anchor.....(I will say that he had no personal knowledge of Anchor specifically, he was saying that the type of structure and action/consequence system that they purport to embrace is the type of help my son needed).  I have told him for over a year that if he didn't change his ways...(and yes, I was specific with him on which ways), I would have no other choice, but to send him to a boarding school.  One of his "friends" was sent to 2 different schools for the same reasons, both of which were horrible and only made the problems worse when they threw the boy out. My son is aware of the bad that could conceivably come out of a facility such as this, but he also knows how much I love him and that I would not allow any harm to come to him.
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« Reply #113 on: October 13, 2005, 06:14:00 PM »
How the hell would you know if harm was coming to him if hes in a program, exactly? And why is a program necessary? Id wager theyre not because people have gotten fine without them for... uh, since the dawn of time, and *MOST* people get by without them ANYWAY!

But yeah, thats the thing... how does hiking through the woods eating bland food for a fwe weeks and then spending months to a few years in some locked in, isolated program going to help with emotional issues  stemming from his divorced parents?

'Structure' (do as I say) and 'action/consequence' (I will make you do as I say) is uh.. teaching obedience. What does that have to do with emotional issues?

But that notwithstanding, why are you calling Fornits 'biased' when every program out there is biased to itself? Also, Lon Woodbury's "struggling teens" allowed *ZERO* negative statements about programs at all - if anything DID happen how would it get out?

Fornits is simply uncensored. People can say whatever they want, not what someone approves of, like EVERY OTHER PLACE ON THE INTERNET. I fail to see how this place is so horrible.

Anyway, before you do any research, check out http://www.isaccorp.org - and then figure out just why a program is needed at all.

P.S. - my nickname is from Nihilanth - a character from a videogame called Half-Life?.

Allow the President to invade a neighboring nation whenever he shall deem it necessary to repel an invasion, and you allow him to do so whenever he may choose to say he deems it necessary for such purpose, and you allow him to make war at pleasure. Study to see if you can fix any limit to his power in this respect, after having given him so much as you propose. If today he should choose to say he thinks it necessary to invade Canada to prevent the British from invading us, how could you stop him? You may say to him,--"I see no probability of the British invading us"; but he will say to you, "Be silent: I see it, if you don't."
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« Reply #114 on: October 13, 2005, 06:15:00 PM »
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I love him and that I would not allow any harm to come to him."


And yet, you seem eager to put him in a place that will more likely than not do him harm.

Warnings ("if you don't change your ways, this is what's going to happen") don't often work. Yes, your kid knows what kind of behaviors he needs to change. It's also probable that he wants to change his ways. But there's something stopping him from doing that. A good therapist could help him find out what that obstacle is, and how to handle it.

Programs, on the other hands, don't deal with issues all that much. Their main lesson is conformity. Conform to rules, even if you find them wrong in some way. Submit to authority, any authority. Never speak your mind. Always tell them what they want to hear. These are the true lessons of the programs, and, more likely than not, that is what your son will learn.

But maybe that's what you're looking for. A submissive robot who does everything you ask him to-- not because it's the right thing to do, but because you're The Parent. That is what programs teach: blind obedience. Nothing else.
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« Reply #115 on: October 13, 2005, 06:24:00 PM »
Wow, Dad. Sounds like your son has been abandoned on  more than 1 account. I am personally pleading with you, If your son is not a direct threat to your or someone elses life, just love him through this troubled time in his life. Sounds like he deserves some stability. We are not your enemy, many of us are absolutely passionate about protecting teens from further abuse. What may seem like a good idea could destroy all of you forever, are you willing to take that chance? My parents did and were wrong, they made a bad choice based on what the program had to say. Please don't take your child's life into your hands. It may be the worst mistake you could ever make.

Try another counselor maybe, or is their any Outpatient "day" programs available to you? I just can't believe Any inpatient program is the best idea. He has had alot of tramitic events happen already, he has every right to have been responding to them the way he has. The events you told are very tough for a young person to process, Time maybe the only healer. Just please don't add to the trauma.
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« Reply #116 on: October 13, 2005, 06:24:00 PM »
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One of his "friends" was sent to 2 different schools for the same reasons, both of which were horrible and only made the problems worse when they threw the boy out. My son is aware of the bad that could conceivably come out of a facility such as this, but he also knows how much I love him and that I would not allow any harm to come to him.


Well, if there's anything better than expensive quack therapy, it's more expensive quack therapy! Hey, here's another idea. Lots of people seem to think this makes sense, so maybe it does. Let's just raise taxes. That will solve the problem, right? Well, maybe not. But at least it won't directly harm your son.

Why not take that money and some time off and you, yourself, take your kid hiking and maybe on a vacation or something. In the end, it'll be cheaper, more helpful and less risky.

Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of it's victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busy-bodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those that torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.
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« Reply #117 on: October 13, 2005, 06:29:00 PM »
I have tried to treat the problem....the drugs, alcohol (and it's not just a beer or two). He has stolen from friends, myself of course, shoplifted (and gotten caught), taken my car at night....(I have had to sleep with my car keys and my wallet under my mattress).  Last time he went to detention, he couldn't remember how he got there he was so drunk...his friends turned him in (he was on the run for 12 days and I offered $200 to anyone that could get him to come home).  His use of pot and alcohol will prevent him from keeping a job and his continued use of potwill prevent him from becoming what he espouses to be his hope....of becoming a law enforcement officer. I don't ask my son to believe as I do...what I was trying to convwey was that I believe in God...if he wants to become Buddhist, ok.....Islam, I might question his reasons, as long as he didn't subscribe to the jihadist extremism, ok....Judaism, fine, even Wiccan might be OK..
The curriculum is very well rounded....although they do teach creationism instead of evolution, but he is already aware of the theory of evolution from his days in public school.
I find it interesting that everyone that knows him well....family, family friends and even his friends that have struggled with and beat the drugs and alcohol are behind a program such as this 100%...I am here looking for someone with experience (personal experience) with the program at Anchor.
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Anchor Academy for Boys in Havre, Montana.
« Reply #118 on: October 13, 2005, 06:53:00 PM »
Well, as I understand it, Anchor is a new name. So you're unlikely to come up w/ a lot of firsthand experience since the name change. But the people who run the place have a long and sordid history.

Your son's lucky to have good old friends who are willing to stick by him. You could learn from them.

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« Reply #119 on: October 13, 2005, 06:59:00 PM »
Thanks for your concern....he has been in 3 outpatient programs including one that he claims to like to be in....but he goes for 1 week....then refuses to go.....gets in trouble with the court, the court tells him to go back...so he goes for 1-2 days...then he is out again...drinking, drugging, dealing and stealing...Outpatient help....alternative schools....counselors......vacations......twice weekly ski outings in the winter.....seasons passes to local amusement parks......and I am the one taking him, his sister, their friends everywhere....I haev tried time all together...time just one-on-one.....I have taken time from work...for weeks at a time trying to find what he needs....and it seems what he needs most is himself and a belief in himself that he can succeed....something Catherine Freer gave him.....he did NOT enjoy the program, but he suer was proud of what he accomplished on that 12 day trip through the wilderness.
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