"From one parents point of view, I dont need to justify the expense and I dont see any failures just people who have wandered off course. My main focus are my kids and how well (or not well) they are doing before and after entering the program. If a child is doing well we should all embrace them and support their decisions whether they have gone to a program or not as long as their life is not self destructive or harmful to others. If a child is not doing well we should seek ways to help them.
If you feel you need to call parents failures because they are asking others for help when they see their children suffering you should not. People who ask for help typically do so because they care and they recognize the need, it is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact it is just the opposite. The alternative is to do nothing and turn your back on the problem."
My parents beat me-yelled at me-verbally abused me- they didn't ask for help they were forced to deal with the problem that they created! Maybe some parents are like you, but many were like mine. I SURVIVED CEDU. My parents created the problem that was sent to CEDU.