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Anonymous:
Any smart person who has spent even a few weeks at Hyde and observed the behavior of staff/teachers knows that Hyde is a haven for recovered druggies/alcoholics - Many of the staff tell you this -
But as my child told me with friends last year - most "are still recovering" and are "drunk in the middle of the night when we search them out for help"
Tragic - that smart parents and caring parents can be so "spoofed" and "reigned in" - We were truly smart and caring and loving and TRUSTING - but Hyde eventually broke every rule that they PROFESS to uphold -
We stuck through the muck and horror of the FLC seminars/Family Weekend seminars - and were just FREAKED by the number of "Stepford Alumnae Parents" who literally parolled every area of campus - including the intimacy of the dorm life - to find "anyone" challenging their "cult" - Yes, I was totally intimated, totally terrified - why??? - Because I had hoped for the BEST for my son - I was told not to listen to him..........
But then I DID listen to him - and I felt anguish and pain.......
And as a PS - I was always criticised for not finding fault with someone in seminars - I was always sympathethic and understanding - for God's sake, we all have burdens to bear and to be each other's friend in a time of need is so necessary.
The response requested in seminars is to be "negative" - And if you don't have any response to a particular commentary, then you are TOTALLY screwed - and SO is your child!!
In one seminar, one father responded to me that my comments were great but that he didnt really feel that he KNEW me at all - You are NOT allowed to respond but I DID - and said very quickly, you have not earned my friendship and trust to allow me to give you personal info about me - The room shut up and the facilitator shut up - but guess what, then it was "time up" for me, and so we could move right on to the next soul.........
So people remain steaming because they can't do anything but put forth their comments, get a shit-load of abstract response......and then you move on to the next person.
What happened to "dialogue" - finding truth over harmony, etc. - you can't find ANY of these values if you are constantly being "shut down" and not able to dialogue.
Such a strange, strange place..........
Joe Gauld - we ask you to post your financials - complaints are being filed from everywhere - Be brave and face Truth and tell your drunken/uncertified staff to have the "COURAGE" to do the same.
Get your own website up and running - spend your millions earned from desperate parents and put it into an HONEST website to receive and give feedback
Yo - Joe - You CAN do it - think of it as your "purpose in life" and tag along all the familyl members on the payroll who can't jobs anywhere else, and YIKES - we MIGHT find "TRUTH OVER HARMONY" at its roots -
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-16 14:46:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Any smart person who has spent even a few weeks at Hyde and observed the behavior of staff/teachers knows that Hyde is a haven for recovered druggies/alcoholics - Many of the staff tell you this -
But as my child told me with friends last year - most "are still recovering" and are "drunk in the middle of the night when we search them out for help"
Tragic - that smart parents and caring parents can be so "spoofed" and "reigned in" - We were truly smart and caring and loving and TRUSTING - but Hyde eventually broke every rule that they PROFESS to uphold -
We stuck through the muck and horror of the FLC seminars/Family Weekend seminars - and were just FREAKED by the number of "Stepford Alumnae Parents" who literally parolled every area of campus - including the intimacy of the dorm life - to find "anyone" challenging their "cult" - Yes, I was totally intimated, totally terrified - why??? - Because I had hoped for the BEST for my son - I was told not to listen to him..........
But then I DID listen to him - and I felt anguish and pain.......
And as a PS - I was always criticised for not finding fault with someone in seminars - I was always sympathethic and understanding - for God's sake, we all have burdens to bear and to be each other's friend in a time of need is so necessary.
The response requested in seminars is to be "negative" - And if you don't have any response to a particular commentary, then you are TOTALLY screwed - and SO is your child!!
In one seminar, one father responded to me that my comments were great but that he didnt really feel that he KNEW me at all - You are NOT allowed to respond but I DID - and said very quickly, you have not earned my friendship and trust to allow me to give you personal info about me - The room shut up and the facilitator shut up - but guess what, then it was "time up" for me, and so we could move right on to the next soul.........
So people remain steaming because they can't do anything but put forth their comments, get a shit-load of abstract response......and then you move on to the next person.
What happened to "dialogue" - finding truth over harmony, etc. - you can't find ANY of these values if you are constantly being "shut down" and not able to dialogue.
Such a strange, strange place..........
Joe Gauld - we ask you to post your financials - complaints are being filed from everywhere - Be brave and face Truth and tell your drunken/uncertified staff to have the "COURAGE" to do the same.
Get your own website up and running - spend your millions earned from desperate parents and put it into an HONEST website to receive and give feedback
Yo - Joe - You CAN do it - think of it as your "purpose in life" and tag along all the familyl members on the payroll who can't jobs anywhere else, and YIKES - we MIGHT find "TRUTH OVER HARMONY" at its roots -
"
--- End quote ---
I'm amazed at the frequency with which people who post on this website refer to Hyde's Stepford Staff, Hyde's cult-ish qualities, Hyde's brainwashing and manipulation, Hyde's Kool-Aid that one dare not drink, Joe Gauld's arrogance, and on and on. The litany doesn't stop. And, diverse people with very diverse experiences come to these same conclusions.
How is it possible for a school surrounded by so much intense anger and resentment to continue to function? Does ANY of this penetrate the Hyde skin, or is the skin so thick and well-defended that Hyde staff don't take any of this in?
If I were in Hyde administrators' shoes, I'd be very, very worried about the cancerous publicity that is now spreading about the school. Momentum is building; eventually this should have a major impact on Hyde. It ought to.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-16 14:46:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Any smart person who has spent even a few weeks at Hyde and observed the behavior of staff/teachers knows that Hyde is a haven for recovered druggies/alcoholics - Many of the staff tell you this -
But as my child told me with friends last year - most "are still recovering" and are "drunk in the middle of the night when we search them out for help"
Tragic - that smart parents and caring parents can be so "spoofed" and "reigned in" - We were truly smart and caring and loving and TRUSTING - but Hyde eventually broke every rule that they PROFESS to uphold -
We stuck through the muck and horror of the FLC seminars/Family Weekend seminars - and were just FREAKED by the number of "Stepford Alumnae Parents" who literally parolled every area of campus - including the intimacy of the dorm life - to find "anyone" challenging their "cult" - Yes, I was totally intimated, totally terrified - why??? - Because I had hoped for the BEST for my son - I was told not to listen to him..........
But then I DID listen to him - and I felt anguish and pain.......
And as a PS - I was always criticised for not finding fault with someone in seminars - I was always sympathethic and understanding - for God's sake, we all have burdens to bear and to be each other's friend in a time of need is so necessary.
The response requested in seminars is to be "negative" - And if you don't have any response to a particular commentary, then you are TOTALLY screwed - and SO is your child!!
In one seminar, one father responded to me that my comments were great but that he didnt really feel that he KNEW me at all - You are NOT allowed to respond but I DID - and said very quickly, you have not earned my friendship and trust to allow me to give you personal info about me - The room shut up and the facilitator shut up - but guess what, then it was "time up" for me, and so we could move right on to the next soul.........
So people remain steaming because they can't do anything but put forth their comments, get a shit-load of abstract response......and then you move on to the next person.
What happened to "dialogue" - finding truth over harmony, etc. - you can't find ANY of these values if you are constantly being "shut down" and not able to dialogue.
Such a strange, strange place..........
Joe Gauld - we ask you to post your financials - complaints are being filed from everywhere - Be brave and face Truth and tell your drunken/uncertified staff to have the "COURAGE" to do the same.
Get your own website up and running - spend your millions earned from desperate parents and put it into an HONEST website to receive and give feedback
Yo - Joe - You CAN do it - think of it as your "purpose in life" and tag along all the familyl members on the payroll who can't jobs anywhere else, and YIKES - we MIGHT find "TRUTH OVER HARMONY" at its roots -
"
--- End quote ---
You're absolutely right. Hyde's seminars are beyond sick. Parents and staff believe they have the right to comment on your life even though they know virtually nothing about you. Parents and staff who struggle with their own recovery and mental health issues believe they have the wisdom to lecture you about your issues. Parents and staff who barely have their act together believe they should have the authority to sermonize. Parents and staff who have no training in psychotherapy believe they should guide other troubled lives. Parents and staff whose own track records are shoddy believe they have the right to shut off dialogue.
Anyone who subjects themselves to this ought to take a big step back and reflect on this craziness. Then they ought to consult with a well informed, thoughtful educational consultant and run from Hyde as fast as they can. No educational consultant with any integrity would refer a family to Hyde.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-16 16:46:00, Anonymous wrote:
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On 2005-11-16 14:46:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Any smart person who has spent even a few weeks at Hyde and observed the behavior of staff/teachers knows that Hyde is a haven for recovered druggies/alcoholics - Many of the staff tell you this -
But as my child told me with friends last year - most "are still recovering" and are "drunk in the middle of the night when we search them out for help"
Tragic - that smart parents and caring parents can be so "spoofed" and "reigned in" - We were truly smart and caring and loving and TRUSTING - but Hyde eventually broke every rule that they PROFESS to uphold -
We stuck through the muck and horror of the FLC seminars/Family Weekend seminars - and were just FREAKED by the number of "Stepford Alumnae Parents" who literally parolled every area of campus - including the intimacy of the dorm life - to find "anyone" challenging their "cult" - Yes, I was totally intimated, totally terrified - why??? - Because I had hoped for the BEST for my son - I was told not to listen to him..........
But then I DID listen to him - and I felt anguish and pain.......
And as a PS - I was always criticised for not finding fault with someone in seminars - I was always sympathethic and understanding - for God's sake, we all have burdens to bear and to be each other's friend in a time of need is so necessary.
The response requested in seminars is to be "negative" - And if you don't have any response to a particular commentary, then you are TOTALLY screwed - and SO is your child!!
In one seminar, one father responded to me that my comments were great but that he didnt really feel that he KNEW me at all - You are NOT allowed to respond but I DID - and said very quickly, you have not earned my friendship and trust to allow me to give you personal info about me - The room shut up and the facilitator shut up - but guess what, then it was "time up" for me, and so we could move right on to the next soul.........
So people remain steaming because they can't do anything but put forth their comments, get a shit-load of abstract response......and then you move on to the next person.
What happened to "dialogue" - finding truth over harmony, etc. - you can't find ANY of these values if you are constantly being "shut down" and not able to dialogue.
Such a strange, strange place..........
Joe Gauld - we ask you to post your financials - complaints are being filed from everywhere - Be brave and face Truth and tell your drunken/uncertified staff to have the "COURAGE" to do the same.
Get your own website up and running - spend your millions earned from desperate parents and put it into an HONEST website to receive and give feedback
Yo - Joe - You CAN do it - think of it as your "purpose in life" and tag along all the familyl members on the payroll who can't jobs anywhere else, and YIKES - we MIGHT find "TRUTH OVER HARMONY" at its roots -
"
--- End quote ---
I'm amazed at the frequency with which people who post on this website refer to Hyde's Stepford Staff, Hyde's cult-ish qualities, Hyde's brainwashing and manipulation, Hyde's Kool-Aid that one dare not drink, Joe Gauld's arrogance, and on and on. The litany doesn't stop. And, diverse people with very diverse experiences come to these same conclusions.
How is it possible for a school surrounded by so much intense anger and resentment to continue to function? Does ANY of this penetrate the Hyde skin, or is the skin so thick and well-defended that Hyde staff don't take any of this in?
If I were in Hyde administrators' shoes, I'd be very, very worried about the cancerous publicity that is now spreading about the school. Momentum is building; eventually this should have a major impact on Hyde. It ought to. "
--- End quote ---
I can assure you that the discussion on this website is having an impact. At one time we considered Hyde for our child. After reading many of these postings (and talking to a number of parents and educational consultants) we have eliminated Hyde as a possibility. We can't imagine subjecting ourselves to this kind of atmosphere. We've talked with many people about many different schools; Hyde is the only school that has triggered this amount of intense resentment and controversy. That certainly has influenced us.
Thank you for the information and warnings. Hyde certainly does seem to be a very sick environment.
gary eskow:
I'm a former Hyde parent and journalist. The account of my time at Hyde, THE JEKYLL SIDE OF HYDE is on the ISAC site. I'd be happy to e mail it anyone interested.
I'm putting together a list of those who would like to be interviewed for an article I'm writing. I can preserve anonymity if necessary, but would prefer comments to be on the record with attribution.
If you'd like to check out examples of my writing before contacting me you can visit my website.
GE
www.garyeskow.com
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