Yes, I read one such troubled parents lament about laying down the law and requiring her 18 year old son to do his own laundry. I bout fell out of the chair. A 10 year old can sort white/colors, set a dial, and add some detergent. Do these parents really want independent kids?
It wrenches my gut to hear these sob stories over and over of how the parent 'did everything' for the kid and they didn't get an ounce of respect. They use and abuse them. Wah, wah, wah. Jada's drama pales in comparison to some of them. I'm imagining that Jada's mom is capable of a dramatic scene now and then herself.
Real simple reality- when you do anything for a person they can do themselves, you create an invalid. You rob them of independence- the opportunity to master their environment. You ROB them of self esteem, appreciation, satisfaction and gratification. When did people loose touch with this?
Create an invalid by your own doing, and then punish them for not knowing how to 'take responsibility', for not demonstrating respect and appreciation. Door mats aren't respected and appreciated, they are used to wipe your feet on. In program speak- they got what they deserved.
What is it with these program parents? Which parenting books did they read? They should be rounded up and burned. Can common sense be taught? Or is it too late once you're an adult?
I'm serious when I say that I think it should be the parents at boot camp being forced out of 'their' denial.
But no, the doormat shape-shifts into a dictator weiding a 'tough love' sword (read: resentment) and ships their kid to a torture camp/warehouse with ample support for feeling completely innocent and justified in doing so. Oh yeah. :rofl: