On 2005-07-28 15:21:00, Anonymous wrote:
I guess the point I tried to make is that maybe the parents that choose programs feel its a better choice than throwing a kid out on his ass.
I think you're probably right. They
think it's better cause they don't have to see what they're paying for. And, of course, they are paying. How many times have you read the astonishing statement that parents who don't love their kids don't spend money on them. Really! So, in these people's minds, money not only buys love, but is, in fact, evidence of it! Wow!
In regard to most of the programs that come up under discussion around here, it would be a good deal better to throw the kids out. But why settle for just better than the worst thing one could do? Why not actually do something WITH the kids? Instead of spending anywhere from $50 to $200k/yr on this scam, why not take off a few months and go camping WITH the kid? Shit, hire a newagey trail guide w/ some indian sounding pseudonym if it makes you feel better about the whole thing.
Getting away from grind and the static and constant noise of civilization is a probably a good thing for most people, whatever may be troubling your mind. No need to needle and poke at the kid to break them down. No need to prohibit phone and mail contact w/ the outside world. No need for any of the abusive tactics, diet restrictions or unneccessary hardships. And I would think that parents who are willing to spend the time and endure the rustic life WITH the kid would earn something like bona fied respect rather than fear based compliance.
I suppose it depends on what you're after in life. I'd rather have my kid give me the finger over taking out the trash and confide in my over the serious stuff than the other way around.
In questions of power, then, let no more be heard of confidence in man, but bind him down from mischief by the chains of the Constitution."
--Thomas Jefferson 1798
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