I am very tired of having the people in the village described in a such a ridiculously lurid light. Prostitutes and god knows what else? When I was there, there were 2, two girls, in the entire eighteen months I was there that were foster kids with horrible parents who had gotten off at the wrong bus station, and had at some point traded sex for a place to stay, what was marriage until recently really, are you sure you aren't a PV plant? It's a blog you know, sentence structure is not a big requirement and you call me crazy , which I have made clear is something of a pet peeve and therefore rather ironic, idiot, because I take offence at you locker room talk and then you go on to talk about, fighting off man dick, or something, and say that all men who are molested are "man love Friends" and therefore gay? How old are you, did you go to college, are you sure you are not a PV undereducated community college counselor, you sound a bit like one? How you talk proves my point! Many, most men are molested as children or as adolescents and they are at no way at fault. But anyway I wanted to say the girls I was in the Village with were not some lurid "Bad Girls" There were two that were foster kids that had had sex for money, but they were runaways. All the rest did not have such tabloid problems, most were not on drugs, another two or three I think had done more serious drugs, now this was in 1996-1998 so I don't know what now is like, but many were anorexics, thirteen year old who had eaten a bottle of aspirin, actually about ten aspirin because she was angry with her parents, one thirteen year old had written in her notebook she wished the school would blow up, her parents were getting a divorce, another her cousins had been molesting her and she told her aunt, who she lived with this was the case, and she threw her out so she move this neighbor guy who was a jerk so she went home and her aunt turned her over to the Village, the cousins had molested her for sure, and she was fifteen. One or two ran off with boyfriends, one was smoking pot and told Christian parents she was gay, one she had told her family her grandfather had molested her. One had slept with two boys at school and the who school was calling her a slut so she cut her wrist. a handful of foster kids. Cry for help girls too of course, cut wrists and such, that crossed into cutting. I actually have not read abbie’s book “Bad Girl” yet because I am very busy with school and work and the last thing I need are flashbacks but I keep hearing reference to prostitutes and some girl molesting someone, and I believe this is a misrepresentation, probably for lurid tabloid headline value. I was there I remember, and what I say is true. No one, when I was there, had molested anybody, but many of them had been molested and as a adult I have read and taken classes and children who are molested often molest other children, especially when they are young, it’s in the profile completely. I think this is just another example of what happens when you put general uneducated “counselors” in charge of the psychology/ therapy of sexual abuse victims. In the Village too much emphasis is placed on the girls fault, it’s the only emphasis and the girls act in context of their worlds. And to turn “therapy” into a group denouncement session, with community college graduates and other abused kids is insane and criminal. There are many people in this world, good and bad and to turn such vulnerable girls over to the random hoard, you may as well turn them over to the Taliban. There are many good people in this world and many horrible one’s. Minors need to be protected from the horrible ones because they too young yet, and naive, I like to refer to teenagers as the toddlers of the adult world, to protect themselves. But the Village like to play into stupid peoples prejudices toward the weak and ugly, like lurid hookers and such, but this is a lie. The girls I was in with were not lurid they were just people. As for the guy who was in PV that did something to a prostitute, like I said any group has all kinds in it, and that aspect is another problem with the teen behavior modification industry, it too often turns over the “therapy” to abuse by the other teens you are in with. At the Village this manifests in the denouncement group therapy sessions, in other places the abuse is allowed to be more physical. But I have to go do my homework now, and I am sorry about my lack punctuation and such if my MLA format bothers you I am sorry but this is not a graded paper and I am busy, I get A’s and I am a senior, often I write late at night because I can’t sleep sorry. I am human you know? and I am very touchy abou these issues.
