Thanks for your response. I am sorry your experience has been so negative.. what you describe does sound abysmal. My only recommendation would be to try and affect change in a positive way. One of the things I learned as a student at Hyde that I have probably used more than anything else, is when there is something going on that I don't like, I think about a proactive way to change it. For example, as a senior, I wanted some "privileges" that weren't given out at first. I wrote up a letter arguing my points in a clear, relatively unbiased way, and submitted that to someone, maybe the dean. It was discussed at a faculty meeting that I was invited to, and after some debate, our privileges were awarded.
The same could be true for you.. if there are staff at the school who are seemingly unprofessional at sporting events, I would write a proactive letter to the coach or the headmaster, stating your points and making a recommendation for change. I advise that this be done in positive tone, rather than an attacking one, as negatives are often responded in the same manner. I would be happy to work with you on this letter, should you decide to move forward with it.
Just as a side note.. when my son was 5, he went to a school in a building that had 2 schools in it. He complained to me one day that the other school gets morning recess (before school starts), but not his school. Since we were early to school every day, I recommended to him that he take a survey to find out if there were other students from his school interested in having morning recess. He found out that there were. He presented these findings to School Leadership Team, and after some debate, morning recess was enabled for his school as well.
Regarding the FLC, this is a little more sensitive but could be handled in a similar manner. I wonder if the timing of the question may have been awkward, and could have been taken off-line to avoid seeming like an attack or a distraction from the task at hand. Even still, another of the very big lessons I learned at Hyde was/is that if you are "churning" about a certain issue, you should deal with this feeling. Again, I recommend doing this in as positive of a tone as possible, to best enable a communication, rather than an attack/defense back and forth. And again, I would be more than happy to work with you or your friend to write a letter, most likely to the facilitator, regarding your/her experience.
I hope that helps in some way. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to discuss this more in-depth.
Best,
Theresa Locklear