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Will someone who went to Hyde please contact me right away
Lars:
Forcing the kids to go through these "auditions" IS abuse. And if you aren't a good singer or dancer, being forced to do these things in front of an audience is not fun, nor is it character-building. It's just plain humiliating.
This board isn't about highlighting differences in how we can build character in our children. It's about people who have been hurt by the abuse, the hypocrisy, the arrogance, the forced intrusions into their families' private lives (done by amateurs) and the treatment of serious mental health issues as character flaws.
It's about people who want to get the word to families in crisis that there are better, kinder and more effective ways to deal with the problems they face. My parents made a bad choice. I forgive them. But I won't forgive Hyde, and like other people on this board, I don't want others to make the same mistake my parents did. I had issues, sure. But they panicked, and fell for Gauld's spiel instead of finding a place that could really help me. I hope other families can use the comments on this board to make better choices[ This Message was edited by: Lars on 2005-11-10 12:28 ]
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-10 12:27:00, Lars wrote:
"Forcing the kids to go through these "auditions" IS abuse. And if you aren't a good singer or dancer, being forced to do these things in front of an audience is not fun, nor is it character-building. It's just plain humiliating.
This board isn't about highlighting differences in how we can build character in our children. It's about people who have been hurt by the abuse, the hypocrisy, the arrogance, the forced intrusions into their families' private lives (done by amateurs) and the treatment of serious mental health issues as character flaws.
It's about people who want to get the word to families in crisis that there are better, kinder and more effective ways to deal with the problems they face. My parents made a bad choice. I forgive them. But I won't forgive Hyde, and like other people on this board, I don't want others to make the same mistake my parents did. I had issues, sure. But they panicked, and fell for Gauld's spiel instead of finding a place that could really help me. I hope other families can use the comments on this board to make better choices[ This Message was edited by: Lars on 2005-11-10 12:28 ]"
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I vividly recall the FLC I attended where parents were expected to sing a song. I was fully prepared to do that and did so willingly. But (and this is one of those Hyde golden moments), I made the "mistake" of asking the seminar leader for a brief explanation of the rationale for the exercise. I naively assumed the group would have a brief and interesting discussion of the conceptual rationale and purpose. Wow, was I wrong! The seminar leader scolded me for questioning the exercise in any way, shape or form. I was told in no uncertain terms that our task was to do as asked and let the moment speak for itself.
Now isn't that sound educational role modeling? Teach students not to question or inquire. Teach them to accept orders with blind faith. Gee, doesn't that sound rather cult-like? This is yet another amazing example of Hyde's notorious hypocrisy. Lecture kids and parents about the importance of character. Then, throw ice cold water on their constructive questions.
Is it any wonder that there are so many people who resent and detest everything that is Hyde related? Hyde's lack of self awareness is mind numbing.
Anonymous:
Hmmmm. Well, when I was at Hyde, first thing is that I knew as part of coming to the school there was mandatory participation in singing or dancing. The second thing was I got to chose between the two, so I had a choice, so its hard for me (with a meager but not horrible voice) to see it even remotely resembling abuse.
What I remember is that when people got up there and were timid and made excuses and somehow showed attitide, they were challenged.
I learned from this. I learned to put myself out in the world boldly and with confidence, and not let my self-perceptions limit me.
I take to heart the words of Henry Miller: "All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous, unpremeditated act without benefit of experience.? ~ Henry Miller
That's what being a kid is about. And that's also the role of good teachers.
Lars:
We didn't get to choose anything. Getting up and doing this crap may have made some people feel braver, but from what I remember, the people who enjoyed this were the weak-minded types who bought into the cult hook, line & sinker.
While it's true that forcing one's self to do things they don't enjoy is part of succeeding in life, Hyde had an unhealthy fetish for that kind of thing.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-11-10 15:11:00, Lars wrote:
"...but from what I remember, the people who enjoyed this were the weak-minded types who bought into the cult hook, line & sinker."
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I totally agree. Singing and dancing. Pushing one's edge. Having someone ask more of you than you would ever ask for yourself. That stuff's for pansies, man!
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