On 2005-04-28 09:11:00, Cayo Hueso wrote:
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On 2001-12-01 14:19:38, Antigen wrote:
The loss of time and youth that we all suffered is not insignificant. I'm sometimes very jealous of my husband. He's got a few good friends from his highschool days and they've become some of my dearest friends over the years. But I have none of my own, no memories of normal adolescence, even if I had someone to share them with. And there's no reclaiming the lost oportunities. That's not insignificant, it still hurts; sometimes more than others. And it's always very painful to reflect that my own mother did this to me.
This bothers me a lot too. I think its one of the main reasons I feel so disconnected from people. I have no roots. I have no frame of reference when it comes to going through my kids teen years. Looking back now that's when a lot of this 'awakening' happened....when my kids reached the age that I was when I went in. I just tried to follow my instincts as a parent up until then, but when they hit 16 I was lost for a while. Now my youngest is going to be 18 fairly soon and I just now feel like I'm beginning to get a handle on how all this shit effected me.There never was a good war or a bad peace.
--Benjamin Franklin, (1773)
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Ditto. (Unfortunately) My husband has friends from junior high. :roll: (But seriously though that's so cool!) His best friends are my friends now too, and I know most of them pretty well. As well as his family is my family now, so the loss of a family to me is a gain in the new and improved, more loving and real family. I can't speak for everyone, but I know a lot of us got some pretty messed up, unhealthy families of the blood relation. I have no blood relatives I speak to except for my sister. It sucks, and it wasn?t fair, but life looks different today.
When you're literally ripped from your natural growth process and forced to be a robot for a few years as a 12-17 year old I'd say yeah, it's a big disconnect from life forever. Those were the stolen years and always will be. I?m just not mourning the loss everyday anymore like I used to. It still hurts but I use that pain as motivation toward the greater good, and in some small way, I try to make a difference.
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