Simply put, that's my main beef with The Seed. There was never any personal choice there. Physically, it was an extremely controlled enviroment. Psychologically, it was a prison. Rule, regimen and rhetoric. One way to think, act, and prosper - all according to some elusive, unidentifed, value scale.
While I didn't spend years in the seed, I did spend a couple of years post-seed with a very abusive man. The standards imposed upon me to avoid a physical violence, in hindsight, were the same kind abusive techniques used at the seed. Complete emotional evisceration and constant fear about when the "come down" would happen. Since I wasn't a well person going into the marrige, it's no wonder it the person I chose was so similar to the only other deep emotional experience I had ever had up to that point- the Seed.
In hindsight,I was a sick puppy, believing I deserved the denegration until one day when I performed my own amature reality test and lo and behold, the problems in my marriage were not all my fault. So, fear drove me to leave, like it drove others to leave the Seed. In the dark of night, under angry circumstances, etc.
I don't know of any cases where someone left an abusive realtionship on good terms - that's pretty much an impossibility, isn't it?
I feel such empathy for the people who stayed on there for years, in service to the "higher" good and seeking their own self-enlightment, yet being denegrated and psychologially undermined at every turn.
The mind control and verbal abuse used by Seed people really ended up stealing the days, weeks and years from many member's productive lives.
[ This Message was edited by: Stripe on 2005-05-30 10:46 ]