So what if it was the Victoria's Secret catalog? Or National Geographic? Or Maxim? Or a VCR tape of a typical T&A flick like Porky's or Revenge of the Nerds? Or Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition? Or a pinup poster of the latest starlet? Or a DVD of Legally Blonde? Or just about any James Bond flick?
Get over it.
Tell him the truth. *You* think the magazine is disgusting and it disturbs you. Throw his magazine away. Tell him you don't condone it and he may buy more skin mags, but he'd better not leave them where you can find them or they're going right into the trash.
Believe me, trashing his magazine is plenty of consequence to keep him from leaving them around where you will find them and be disturbed by them.
Most men never grow out of wanting to look at scantily clad, pretty, young women.
Most men *do* become discreet about allowing their womenfolk to *catch* them looking at scantily clad, pretty, young women.
If he's the type to become a religious fanatic and quit looking, he will. If he's *not* the type to become a religious fanatic and quit looking, there's not a damned thing you can do to stop him. He's gonna look. There are enough chickies wandering around in next to nothing for him to have plenty to look at.
At sixteen, what he's going to be or not be when he grows into manhood is already carved in stone. You either passed on your values and he'll grow out of his adolescent "rebellion" *or* you didn't pass on your values and he's formulated his own and he'll settle down enough from adolescence to live by whatever values he has.
In the nineteenth century, your son would have been old enough to join the military or run off and lie about his age and marry. Any farmer would have taken on him and his young wife as hired help with few to no questions, as long as he was a hard worker.
Just because our warped society considers him a child instead of a man and has infantilized him so that he's a childish man doesn't mean he's not a man.
He's a man.
His values are already engraved in his heart and mind, for better or worse, and you're just going to have to hold your breath and see how he turns out.
He's not an active danger to himself or others.
He's gonna do what he's gonna do. Live with it.
*Or* try to crack down on him like a load of bricks and watch your relationship with him slip through your fingers and lose him forever.
Those are your choices.
Because if he's got the stones to get himself a skin mag despite your wishes, he's got the stones not to be a mama's boy, and you're not going to be able to retie him to your apron strings. The young man, however immature, simply won't let you do it.
That is, *if* this is a real thread and not a troll--which I doubt.
Timoclea
