To Alex's Mom,
I have a cautionary tale. If you are trying to keep Alex away from his girlfriend you may be setting up a disaster. Trying to keep two teenagers apart when they think they are in love only fuels a Romeo and Juliet attitude.
My father tried this with my sister. He tried everything. He walked her to school and he walked her home. She was not allowed to leave the house. He involved the school teachers and staff to keep the boy away (he had quit school, already). He did worse that I won't go into.
The day my Dad finally kicked my sister out of our house, she was 15. She was pregnant. She ended up marrying the boy.
I recently asked my sister about all the closed door talks she had with our Dad after our parents found out she was pregnant. She said basically he gave her the choice of a. give the baby up for adoption or b. leave. She left. She told me, "Walking down that sidewalk, alone, with nowhere to go and only a suitcase full of stuff, was the happiest moment of my life."
My parents lost their daughter.
Are you setting up Alex for the same? Will your tyrannical approach work, or will Alex some day just leave and count it as the happiest day of his life?
