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You shouldn't just jump to finding a program for your brother there are many steps that precede this decision and many options that could be effective right in your back yard. I would suggest you try to get him to see a therapist locally first so that someone can evaluate him or have him evaluated by a team at a local hospital. There are many different types of programs out there. Many specialize in specific problems suited to the individual needs of the child. There are also many bad programs so you need to do your homework before you get to the point where your brother may need to be placed in one.

We're not jumping. He refuses to see any therapists, refuses to come home with any amount of regularity, refuses to talk to anyone. He is being supported by a group of friends who will harbor him and hide him despite our calling the police on the friends and their families numerous times. He has been evaluated by doctor's who acknowledge that his impulse control behavior is out of control and that he has violent outbursts and is closed off emotionally. He needs help and we can't give it to him. I feel every day that by keeping him in our home and letting the cycle of abuse continue that we are hurting him more then helping him, and giving him time in a place where he would get therapy and work through these issues with people who aren't in a state of crisis is the only answer.

What do you do when someone you love who you are absolutely incapable of controlling physically, who has not changed, but in fact deteriorated their behavior despite talking, doctor appointments, police interventions, who lies, manipulates, actively tries to steal money...what do you do with that child when you can't control them? When their parent is immobilized by the death of her other son?