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The Troubled Teen Industry / Re: Academy at Sisters
« on: July 03, 2010, 05:00:17 PM »
DJ, if she reads up and shows responsiveness to a well defined plan, then problem solved.  I truly don't WANT to 'Institutionalize' her just because.  We've tried a lot of different approaches. We WILL be calling the county sheriff and DA and see what else may be discovered.  That may all be moot if Morgan can 'come around' and make some effort at change around here. It's just that there's not many years left for advancement.  The Academy looks like a fast track to bridge some of the parenting gaps we've encounter over the years. Some posters on this site have had good outcomes from TBS.  Granted there's lots of  data on schoolsprograms that have not been stellar.  But as a parent I'm not finding anything wrong with the child is the product line of thinking.  The child IS the product.  The product of our parenting. The product of the public school system, the product of the influences of society at large, the media, their peers etc. The end product becomes the adults which go out into the world and have to become a part  of society at large.If one doesn't learn how to respond respectfully to authority (notice I did NOT say RESPECT AUTHORITY) there's going to be trouble somewhere. We don't ask for 'respect' at home, but we expect our interactions to be in a respectful tone. As parents we LOVE out daughter for who she is.  We love the parts of her being that are uniquely her and are not looking to change that.  The habits she is is building at school are not conducive to keeping a job and we all know that being disrespectful to a bass is a sure fired way to not have a job.  I look at this as a last choice for our situation.  Never was this option a first choice.  This has not been an easy decision, nor is it a final one at this point.

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The Troubled Teen Industry / Re: Academy at Sisters
« on: July 03, 2010, 04:00:46 PM »
Joel, I Would LOVE to consider and alternative plan.  However, attitude towards counseling from her side has flat out been declined.  She believes it's a useless waste. Being a loving parent, I have her future in my foremost thoughts.  I want to see her start to care. To start to make good choices. Stop the unnecessary lying. I'm not going to say I've been a saint but let us just say if there was any sign of responsiveness to alternatives we'd not be considering this course of action. If doing counseling and keeping her at home with us seemed to be a real option we'd go for it I'm sure. From MY extensive research on this particular facility I find that after 16 years of operation under the same name and no scathing data found by parents or participants to actually be a good sign. Granted there's no real GOOD data either. I appreciate all of the input and have found a lot of other good discussions on this site. The main point here is SOMETHING needs to change.  The approaches we've tried thus far have failed to take root. It takes 2 to tango. We are ultra serious about what our expectations have been and how if she wont participate we'll make the choices for her.  Again, good things to ask when we 'tour' (and no plans to just dump her at that time). We're pretty open with Morgan in all things involving family matters. I can't imagine how she would feel if we just told her we were going for a tour and dumped her and ran away.  That would SURELY be abuse IMO. Please, provide more input to ALL sides here.  Maybe she'll take some outside advice and show us some real desire to respect authority and make effort in her academics. I want her to be happy in whatever she chooses to dobe.  If that's being a piercing tattoo artist, fine by me. I just want her honest, trustworthy and educated.  She wont get far in the UK without a good education. There's  Lots of things about the UK she's not aware of from a governmental perspective yet. Would love to have enough trust to let her have a summer alone there when she gets a bit older. :soapbox:

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