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The Troubled Teen Industry / Re: Why spend a year in a program when it can be done in a w
« on: May 27, 2010, 01:28:00 AM »
(A) the child into adolescence, is ready to portray themselves as an adult. Their thoughts and behavior, on the parents than the previous period even more difficult.
(B) parenting tips for young children
1. Parents can not force young children, adolescent children can not force parents; two sides can not force the other to do the other side do not want to do.
2. If the relationship between parent-child communication or poor, need to change the first parents; only when parents have a positive change, children will change.
(C) of the young parents to bring the biggest trouble is some of their bad behavior, the purpose of these actions can be summarized in six categories:
1. Attention:
Active - mischievous, playful, dressed bounds.
Negative - agreed not to do, ignore their fair share of the do.
2. The pursuit of power:
Active - resistance, disobedience, talk back, there is hostility.
Negative - stubborn resistance.
3. Retaliation:
Active - the parents intentionally do something sad, violent damage, rough.
Negative - something with the eyes of hatred treat people.
4. Consciously incompetent:
Active - do not keep regular, strong irritant to do something special, including the car, doing dangerous sports, drinking, drugs, sexual promiscuity.
Negative - give up easily, do not want to try, willing to backward, skip school or use other ways to escape, including drinking, taking drugs.
5. Performance superiority: the pursuit of the highest performance, highest honors; look down on parents and others; and others with a sense of superiority against.
6. Seek peer acceptance: spend a lot of time and effort to do all the things to strike a broad acceptance of their peers.
(B) parenting tips for young children
1. Parents can not force young children, adolescent children can not force parents; two sides can not force the other to do the other side do not want to do.
2. If the relationship between parent-child communication or poor, need to change the first parents; only when parents have a positive change, children will change.
(C) of the young parents to bring the biggest trouble is some of their bad behavior, the purpose of these actions can be summarized in six categories:
1. Attention:
Active - mischievous, playful, dressed bounds.
Negative - agreed not to do, ignore their fair share of the do.
2. The pursuit of power:
Active - resistance, disobedience, talk back, there is hostility.
Negative - stubborn resistance.
3. Retaliation:
Active - the parents intentionally do something sad, violent damage, rough.
Negative - something with the eyes of hatred treat people.
4. Consciously incompetent:
Active - do not keep regular, strong irritant to do something special, including the car, doing dangerous sports, drinking, drugs, sexual promiscuity.
Negative - give up easily, do not want to try, willing to backward, skip school or use other ways to escape, including drinking, taking drugs.
5. Performance superiority: the pursuit of the highest performance, highest honors; look down on parents and others; and others with a sense of superiority against.
6. Seek peer acceptance: spend a lot of time and effort to do all the things to strike a broad acceptance of their peers.