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that is correct. I too have read enough reponses to parents asking for insight that were instantly slammed for poor parenting. The reality is I love my son more than anything and will do whatever is best for him....right now I'm trying to figure that out. I don't need to be told how to be a good father.

The post listing 5-6 steps to help your child at home was helpfull...the problem is we have done every single one of those things, includung a recent 5 day institutional stay for safety. He's miserable, frightened, angry,remorseful, vindictive, angry and in desperate need of professional help.

What I'm learning is that this problem is like catching a cloud...illusive and entirely inconclusive. One guy says."severe depression...take this.." the next guy says.." no..it's bipolar...take these..." the third guy ( hugely qualified from Duke Childrens Hospital) says..."it doesn't appear to be bipolar....looks like severe depression..."

Meanwhile my son is going through hell. His solution is to give me back my freedom and let me show you that I can make good decisions, etc...yet if he makes one miss-step he will likely go to jail.

While I respect everybody's right to an opinion, if your answer is to simply tell me that I suck...please don't.....

he's been arrested twice in the last 30 days...ecstasy possession and B&E, 2nd charge is a felony... status pending

Complete disregard for all family rules...blatant use of pot and other drugs, running away, diagnosed as bipolar within 45 minutes after admission to a pysch. ward (voluntary)...I think that's bullshit but we're continueing to pursue a diagnosis, semester just ended and he has a 1.2 GPA. Not that I give a shit about his grades as they relate to his future...but it is symptomatic of the bigger picture.

he's been in therapy for over a year, medicated, off medication, on medication....his social circle is exclusively about drug use "I need a sack dude!"...

He's in or very close to crisis...I'm primarily trying to keep him out of prison AND make some changes too....

Before you all accuse me of being a faulted parent,... understand that I've read this forum ENDLESSLY and believe we have been doing exactly what is suggested. IT"S NOT WORKING... and before I need to go see him at a State Prison...I have to do something to help.