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The Troubled Teen Industry / Struggling Teens or Struggling Parents???
« on: July 02, 2006, 02:02:00 AM »
What drugs are you on?
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: July 02, 2006, 01:59:00 AM »
you said, "pot is good, that is all". Ok, so are you trying to say something here?
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: July 02, 2006, 01:56:00 AM »
you all use the "F" word, why can't I??
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 02, 2006, 01:54:00 AM »
Yes, it is the truth. If you went through what I did with my son at that time, you would understand why I couldn't go into his room in the beginning. It is cleaned up now, and my son, thought it looked great and was glad that I cleaned it up. He just called me and we talked for 20 minutes. He is doing well and still looking for a summer job. A little background, this is a kid that played hockey for 13 years, I paid all, his Father never helped with the payments, and in all the years that my son played ice hockey, his Fahter went to 2 practices, and 1 game.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 02, 2006, 12:59:00 AM »
I did not tell you of the condition of my son's room, and cleaning it up, you stole that from my posting on ST!
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: July 02, 2006, 12:33:00 AM »
yes, he found out after my son was gone, and he told me"finally you did something right for our son". (If he felt this way, why didn't he say something a long time ago, or do something about it, but no, he did not) I am not bashing the Father, although he deserves it, what Father won't stand up to his Wife of 8 or 9 years and say, this is my son, and he needs to be here in our house, but he didn't and moved my son out of his house 2 years ago, did it hurt my son, of course it did.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 02, 2006, 12:21:00 AM »
You are Annon. Why don't you reveal yourself?? I didn't blow the money away. I am using my username, why won't you??
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 02, 2006, 12:19:00 AM »
Geeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, I am just trying to respond to your questions, and your statements regarding my son and I that are not true. What I meant when I said a "normal house", is that the kids lived in houses, not an institution.
Don't you get it by now, my son does not want to live here. He is the one who told me where he wants to live. I/we have lived in this house since 1991. I can't simply sell it and move, and my Mom 85, is here, and sister and her family, besides, my son DOES NOT WANT TO LIVE IN ALASKA ANYMORE!!
Don't tell me to get over my ex. Yes we have been divorced a long time, but really that doesn't matter, we only communicate by e-mail. His Father's motto: his way or no way. There is no talking to him on the phone. Long, long story, something I don't want to rehash with anyone right now.
Leslie
Don't you get it by now, my son does not want to live here. He is the one who told me where he wants to live. I/we have lived in this house since 1991. I can't simply sell it and move, and my Mom 85, is here, and sister and her family, besides, my son DOES NOT WANT TO LIVE IN ALASKA ANYMORE!!
Don't tell me to get over my ex. Yes we have been divorced a long time, but really that doesn't matter, we only communicate by e-mail. His Father's motto: his way or no way. There is no talking to him on the phone. Long, long story, something I don't want to rehash with anyone right now.
Leslie
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 01, 2006, 11:21:00 PM »
Milk.... I had no help in writing my post, my own words from me, totally me, (I never lie)and if I had the money, but I don't, I would bet you a thousand dollars that my son will graduate from college.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: July 01, 2006, 11:07:00 PM »
Well, thanks for your response!
My son and I are not astranged, he calls me, and he asked for help on some summer job applications, and I did help him. We also chatted online yesterday.
He was not in a "psycho prison" as you put it, and I have posted elsewhere on this site about that. You mention that he has "missed out on the best years of his life and the social" life, but he really didn't,(he went to a local high school and participated in activities there and made guy and girl friends at the HS as well) as if he had been here, he wasn't in high school to have those years.
I am not terrified of him, as you said. I am not even thinking about making myself better as you also said in your post, I am fine,(I will do for myself what I need to do and my son will do what he needs to do and what he wants to do). I can only hope that he will make good decisions, and my son is doing fine, and he is where he wants to be. He told me that he wants to live where he is, that he can't live here at our home, because of the people that he had to avoid here while he was here for a week. No, I am totally not perfect, and never will be, nobody is perfect. I know my son will make some good choices, and some bad choices, but he will have to learn from those bad choices. I am not throwing my son away somewhere. I am not like his Father or other parents who feel that when their kids reach the age of 18, they are on their own. I will always be there for my son, if he needs me, all he has to do is ask. I will not tell him what to do anymore, just suggest things if he asks.
As far as my son still smoking, and/or smoking pot, he threw out what he had before he left, and I have no idea if he is smoking pot where he is, because he doesn't have any friends there (he will make friends easily there or at college), and his cousins who are in their college years do not smoke pot.
All for now.
Leslie
My son and I are not astranged, he calls me, and he asked for help on some summer job applications, and I did help him. We also chatted online yesterday.
He was not in a "psycho prison" as you put it, and I have posted elsewhere on this site about that. You mention that he has "missed out on the best years of his life and the social" life, but he really didn't,(he went to a local high school and participated in activities there and made guy and girl friends at the HS as well) as if he had been here, he wasn't in high school to have those years.
I am not terrified of him, as you said. I am not even thinking about making myself better as you also said in your post, I am fine,(I will do for myself what I need to do and my son will do what he needs to do and what he wants to do). I can only hope that he will make good decisions, and my son is doing fine, and he is where he wants to be. He told me that he wants to live where he is, that he can't live here at our home, because of the people that he had to avoid here while he was here for a week. No, I am totally not perfect, and never will be, nobody is perfect. I know my son will make some good choices, and some bad choices, but he will have to learn from those bad choices. I am not throwing my son away somewhere. I am not like his Father or other parents who feel that when their kids reach the age of 18, they are on their own. I will always be there for my son, if he needs me, all he has to do is ask. I will not tell him what to do anymore, just suggest things if he asks.
As far as my son still smoking, and/or smoking pot, he threw out what he had before he left, and I have no idea if he is smoking pot where he is, because he doesn't have any friends there (he will make friends easily there or at college), and his cousins who are in their college years do not smoke pot.
All for now.
Leslie
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 01, 2006, 10:39:00 PM »
No, I do not agree that a 6 year old should be where my son was (at the TBS). I think 6 years old is absurd, and at that age should not be sent to a TBS or anywhere. Also, just to let you know, they have never had anyone that young there, the youngest they have had was 14. All of you have your own viewpoints about TBS's, and you should, and I have mine. True they are not for every kid. You also have talked about abuse and being locked up. I have talked to my son about this, and there was no abuse to any of the kids (he did tell me that there were several kids there that were far worse off than he (my son) was. Nobody was put in isolation, and they went to a local high school, riding the school bus to and back. They lived in regular normal houses just like you and I do. My son turned 18 in May while he was there, and could have left at any time after that, but he wrote me a long letter, and told me that he could leave because he was 18 and it was his choice as to what he wanted to do, but he wanted to stay and finish and graduate from high school, and then leave after that. (he had dropped out of HS here in the 11th grade, with D's and F's, but graduated from high school on time, with (6) A's and (1) B). Again, you all have your viewpoints, and I have mine, and my son has his viewpoint as well. He told me that he was out of control, and he knows and understands what and why I sent him. Sure at times he didn't like it at all, but he said he learned some things about himself and about life in general, and what the future now holds for him, that he didn't have before. He told me that because I what I did, he has a future, not like one of his friends, who is now in jail. My son feels badly for his friend, but is glad that he is not in the jail cell next to him. I have a lot more I could say, but I am not going to. I just wanted to answer your question above, and decided to give you a little more detail. I am not looking for anyone on here to care about me or what I did, I just want you to understand why I did what I had to do, and I felt it was my only option at the time.
If you want more details, I can give them, but I know you are all not interested in details. You all are against the programs, and I understand.
Perhaps I will post more later and give you some details about what my situation was like and see what options you all think I could have done instead.
Thank you,
Leslie
If you want more details, I can give them, but I know you are all not interested in details. You all are against the programs, and I understand.
Perhaps I will post more later and give you some details about what my situation was like and see what options you all think I could have done instead.
Thank you,
Leslie
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: July 01, 2006, 10:05:00 PM »
Julie, in your opinion, you think I "screwed up", in my opinion, and everyone else around me, I did not screw up. You have your opinion and I have mine, as well as my son has his opinion, and he says I did not "screw up" as you put it above.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / A quick post to leslie and the other ST parents.
« on: July 01, 2006, 04:59:00 PM »
Ok, thanks, I totally understand.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / more from struggling turkeys (Karen in Dallas wrote this)
« on: June 28, 2006, 04:35:00 PM »
Nihilanthic, I am just trying to defend myself, on here, do you think I should just stop, and forget about it all and what everyone is doing to me??
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The Troubled Teen Industry / Struggling Teens or Struggling Parents???
« on: June 28, 2006, 03:45:00 PM »
He wants to be there, his choice.