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If you've never been to a program, how can you possibly know what it's been like.  I was in alternative education too, but it wasn't as you explain.  I've also been to jail and there's alot less freedoms and alot more "mental abuse" there. I'm not saying I agree with the theraputic value in these so called theraputic boarding schools.  I don't at all.  But it's hard to hear where you're coming from if you've never experienced one first hand yourself.  You talk as if you were there for years and experienced first hand what it's like.  All your freedoms are stripped, but it does force you to take a look at yourself becuase there is nothing else to reflect on.  It was up to me how long I was going to stay there, so I just went with it, did what everyone expected me to do and went on with my life.  There was no physical abuse, just people taking advantage of their authority because they could.  I hated that.  I had to have the last say. I hated authority, that's why I was there.  I made some awesome friendships which is the only thing that got me through.  as I look at myself now, I did put my parents thorough a hell.  They gave me everything and I chewed them up and swallowed them up - I never appreciated what I had because I always figured I'd have it.  Little did I know, I'd get sent away and not have any of it.  It was either - six months of a theraputic boarding school or a year in jail - court ordered - parent ordered.  If you've ever spent time in jail, which I did =- four times, you'd take the school any day of the year.  Trust me.  Jail is much much worse.  I'd never go back to either.  I'm an adult now and I'm getting on with my life in the right way.  My parents didn't do wrong by me - I certainly did wrong by them.  I pretty much found every way in the book to "fuck em'"  I guess they found a way to get back at me.  My worst nightmare of my life - no abuse, no restraints, just assholes taking advantage of their authority. THe one thing I hate the most.