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My 17-year-old daughter (let's call her Hope)is in severe crisis on many levels and my ex-husband and I are trying to find help for her. Hope's a senior in high school.  She's very bright and ambitious, intending to go to a good college in the fall. However, over the summer, Hope became addicted to meth and also became bulimic and anorexic. Before that, she was drinking. Hope would get so drunk and abusive that her close circle of friends dropped her. She started hanging out with druggies and lowlifes, sneaking out at night, using, and sleeping around. Although Hope has been seeing a psychiatrist for depression, anxiety, and paranoia, I discovered that she wasn't taking her medications at all.  Her grades up until summer were honor roll caliber and most of her classes were Advanced Placement. This fall Hope's school attendance dropped drastically, often because she couldn't get up in the morning due to drug withdrawal. Now she's getting C's, D's & F's, mostly due to poor attendance and zero ambition. She tells lies constantly.  I know this because I have the password to her online journals, and know what she's really doing. I also know how desperately Hope has tried to stop using, but slips back because of addiction not helped by her bad-influence friends.  She has considered suicide and sometimes cuts herself.  As her mom, I am horrified at her dramatic decline, but she has nothing but contempt for me, and under the influence, has even beat me up on 4 occasions.  Twice I had to call the police.  She defies even the simplest rules at home. I admit to being a lax disciplinarian, but my mellow live-and-let-live attitude is NOT helping my daughter. At the moment, she's at a local hospital on 72-hour-hold.  Obviously, Hope is out of control and self-destructive!  Today my ex and I visited the hopital social worker, who praised Provo Canyon School to the skies. At first blush, it sounded wonderful. (We're in Los Angeles, by the way.)  But now that I have read alot of the horrific stuff written about PCS  online, it sounds like a snake pit I wouldn't even send a snake to.  Now, the complaints COULD be from a bunch of whining malcontents with an axe to grind, but somehow, I don't think so.  Therefore my question remains: is there a suitable residential place with a truly good reputation?!!!!  I am open to suggestions, everyone.