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My daughter Jennifer called me yesterday, cracking up laughing, telling me a story about some things said about her, me and her mother here.  I had her come to my office to show this to me so I could grasp what she was talking about.  I have been bothered since.  She may find pity for whoever wrote such things, I do not.  First, she may not take threats seriously, I do and I have no hesitation in contacting my attorney if that is necessary.  I would hope it is not.  Second, wherever the idea that we gave one more penny to Straight after they kept Jennifer on 5th phase for over 14 months because we could house and feed so many girls is bullshit.  It took me and Jennifer's mom a while to figure out we were being used but we finally did.  The truth of the matter is that we gave Ann Petito a specific day that we expected Jennifer to FINALLY commence on or we would pull her and lo and behold that is the Friday she commenced.  We would have not ever agreed to put Jennifer back in Straight and she was emancipated at 16 so we could not have even if they encouraged us to - which did not happen.  As far as Jennifer's sexual behavior, which really is none of your business, she has spoken to us about how she acted out after Straight.  We were shocked but it gave us a clue that perhaps there was something wrong with Straight if it drove our daughter, who until having been placed in Straight, had not had sex, except when she was raped.  As hard as it was to hear, it was the beginning of the end of the brainwashing that happened to all of our family through that hellhole.  Yes, Jennifer has been lucky, and I thank God every day that we had the means to get her the years of deprogramming and extensive therapy she needed to recapture her spirit and life.  Her mother and I contacted lawyers after learning about what really happened there; we thought alot of the rules for hosthomes were stupid but we both bought into the whole line of 'if you don't do this she will die'  We had had a precious child who had never really given us problems go in less than four months into such a depression that she attempted to take her own life with no explanation.  My heart aches to this day knowing what happened to her to cause this pain but they did not bother to tell us when she was on first phase that her acting out was because she was raped and molested.  By the time she came home, she told us she was a druggie and we were complacent - it seemed like Straight did what it said it would.  By the time we found out what really happened in group and behind closed doors, Straight was long gone and any kind of legal accountability as well.  Does a day go by that I do not think about how wrong we were, that I do not sometimes hate myself for subjecting my own child to basically torture - HELL NO....I feel sick even writing this but my daughter has too much compassion sometimes, I wanted to puke at some of the things she found pity for people in.  Not one of you knows Jennifer today, she is a survivor to the inth degree.  She has courage most should aspire to, that she can actually find compassion and feel a sense of sadness for people who would say such untrue, laughable things about her speaks volumes about her character.  She was obviously up late last night, when I read her reply I was so proud of her, she defines class today, one of the many, many things Straight almost killed in her but that she has fought to resurrect and has been more than successful in her endeavor.  I know I cannot control any of the things people choose to say but I am setting the facts right, after all, they did happen to me, my wife and our family.  I'm with Jennifer, say what you will about her, she knows who she is and what is true about her but should she ever feel endangered, I will not hesitate to take the proper measures to make sure she is protected. To be clear, that is not a threat of any physical harm, only stating that should my daughter feel threated that I will go through the proper legal channels to make sure she is safe. If that is what you mean by her 'buying her way through life' than you better believe it.  I sent her to hell and I will absolutely do anything to protect her today since I failed so miserably when she was younger. Other than that, she has worked her ass off to provide the lifestyle she wants.  Even she will tell you that as her parents, we would be thrilled if she were a bit more fiscally conservative, but she earns it, not me and I cannot tell her how or what to do with it.  As far as 'being set for life' her closet may be but I'd check the rest of your facts there.  
Everyone has their version of the truth, these are the facts pertaining to the attacks levied against me, my wife and Jennifer.
Mr. Loar