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Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform => Straight, Inc. and Derivatives => Topic started by: kaydeejaded on January 02, 2004, 07:27:00 PM
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since this website may be taken down I would like to spend a moment to dedicate this space to the day that Tom Driscoll Sr staff punched me in the face in front of the entire exec staff and I was not even allowed to press charges
call my parents
speak to police
nothing
every single basic right was denied to me
I was a 14 year old girl who was 4'11 and her dropped me in the face in front of an entired room full of guys girls and regular and executive staff
He was later REHIRED BY STRAIGHT
He was reHIRED after I was sent to a psych ward
He was an ADULT GRADUATE of the PROGRAM not a professional
He assaulted a 14 year old
he was rehired
THANK you THOMAS DRISCOLL
THANK YOU DEBRA DRAGHTON(SP?) for not allowing me to tell my family and denying me the right to press charges! And for rehiring a child abuser and women batterer.
Where are you now Tom.
And if you take the name off of here I don't think it is right because I think it is time he is held "accountable" long overdue time!!!!!None of Nature's landscapes are ugly so long as they are wild.
-- John Muir
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bitch slap the ass in the face
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::heart:: Kaydee
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what program was Tom a staff member in?
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I really love this website and I think it's a good place to give the finger to businesses that did people wrong: http://www.ripoffreport.com (http://www.ripoffreport.com)
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[ This Message was edited by: ceduvictim on 2005-12-26 17:05 ]
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Let me start by saying that obviously under NO circumstances what so ever should a man hit a woman, and I believe what happened to you is an unfortunate tragedy.It has obviously scarred you and it seems that you definitley are searching for some type of closure...and i hope you get it.I do however feel that although the situation was very unfortunate for all parties involved, have you thought about how that guy was possibly just as messed up and struggling to find his way and turn his life around, just as much as the next kid was? You say he was 19 years old.We are all still kids when we are 19.Yeah, at 18 we are considered an "adult"...but there is a reason that the drinking age is 21.Because at 19, especially in a situation like Straight....we are all just trying to find our way in the world,who we are as a person,how we react to some of the fucked up situations we find ourselves in, and many times we lack the common sense, or even the ability to make rational decisions.I am not making excuses for the guy, and I do not condone what he did.But maybe he is out there somewhere and has turned his life around and become a postive contributor to society.Maybe he regrets what he did and was living with guilt and decided to use his mistakes to help people stay away from doing some of the shit that he did.It's not an impossiblity.
All I'm saying is, that was a long time ago, and that it seems that you have other issues, bigger issues, that you need to work out.I'm not being judgemental...I'm not perfect either.We all have issues.I'm trying to help you maybe look at it from a different perspective.All the resentment, anger, and hurt that you have been feeling up to this point has obvioulsy not brought you any closure...and neither will revenge, or hatred, or damnation on a messageboard.
If you want closure, it comes through forgiveness, being at peace with yourself, and not letting anyone hurt you emotionally, mentally,or physically.Closure comes through doing what you can to help other kids escape the hurt and fucked up experiences you faced.Are you doing that?Have you thought about it. Everyone deserves a second chance.Don't worry about where that guy is and what he's doing.Focus on YOU. Closure comes when you make your own life better, when you mend your own heart.Not by the pain and punishment of others, and if it does, the issue is far deeper than being hit in the face.
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If you want closure, it comes through forgiveness, being at peace with yourself, and not letting anyone hurt you emotionally, mentally,or physically.Closure comes through doing what you can to help other kids escape the hurt and fucked up experiences you faced.Are you doing that?Have you thought about it. Everyone deserves a second chance.Don't worry about where that guy is and what he's doing.Focus on YOU. Closure comes when you make your own life better, when you mend your own heart.Not by the pain and punishment of others, and if it does, the issue is far deeper than being hit in the face."
Ehhh... I agree with part of what you're saying.
Yes, healing comes from within. But the wish to see the punishment of those who committed outright abuse... how is that wrong?? Do we not sit in front of the TV watching murder trials and wanting justice?
No, getting hit in the face is not murder, but there have been people in higher chairs quoted as saying [these programs are] "psychic murder". And still, there have been acutual, physical, deaths attributed to these programs.
What would you want if your kid/grandkid/sibling/niece/nephew/cousin died ... let me rephrase that -- if they physically died in one of these programs? OK, so, they didn't? What if their bodies came home intact, and their souls were just gone. Do you still forgive their "killers"?
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I'll be a long time gone
you've got your whole life to do something
and that's not very long
so why don't you give me a call
when you're willing to fight
for what you think is real
for what you think i[ This Message was edited by: Sara-84 on 2004-12-14 20:09 ]
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On 2004-12-14 14:30:00, Evets Droffats wrote:
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If you want closure, it comes through forgiveness, being at peace with yourself, and not letting anyone hurt you emotionally, mentally,or physically.Closure comes through doing what you can to help other kids escape the hurt and fucked up experiences you faced.Are you doing that?Have you thought about it. Everyone deserves a second chance.Don't worry about where that guy is and what he's doing.Focus on YOU. Closure comes when you make your own life better, when you mend your own heart.Not by the pain and punishment of others, and if it does, the issue is far deeper than being hit in the face."
I know you are probably really trying to help her, but I wonder, has this approach HONESTLY helped you move on with the hurts from your life? Because to me, focusing on you is only half of the answer. The other half is recognizing that she was wronged by this guy. Because that's the only way she can take care of herself now and also possibly try and do something creative in this world to make it a better place. Ignoring the feelings won't help anyone. Anger can be a real motivator.[ This Message was edited by: jane on 2004-12-15 12:27 ]
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On 2004-12-14 20:08:00, Sara-84 wrote:
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If you want closure, it comes through forgiveness, being at peace with yourself, and not letting anyone hurt you emotionally, mentally,or physically.Closure comes through doing what you can to help other kids escape the hurt and fucked up experiences you faced.Are you doing that? Have you thought about it? Everyone deserves a second chance. Don't worry about where that guy is and what he's doing. Focus on YOU. Closure comes when you make your own life better, when you mend your own heart.N ot by the pain and punishment of others, and if it does, the issue is far deeper than being hit in the face."
Ehhh... I agree with part of what you're saying.
Yes, healing comes from within. But the wish to see the punishment of those who committed outright abuse... how is that wrong?? Do we not sit in front of the TV watching murder trials and wanting justice?
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Vengence... that's what's wrong with it.
I think the person you're quoting is right, Sara. Holding onto anger only instills resentment, and resentment only depletes you of inner peace and happiness. I do not think anger is a good motivator.
I agree with all of it. :tup:
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Vengence... that's what's wrong with it.
I think the person you're quoting is right, Sara. Holding onto anger only instills resentment, and resentment only depletes you of inner peace and happiness. I do not think anger is a good motivator.
I agree with all of it. :tup: "
Ok, so what's motivating you to want to see something done about these places?
I know what you're saying about anger though, but I think anger has a healthy side too. It's a valid emotion, just like happiness.
Honestly, aren't you sick of hearing "Oh, it's over, get on with your lives...."?
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"I was a long time coming
I'll be a long time gone
you've got your whole life to do something
and that's not very long"
-Ani DiFranco[ This Message was edited by: Sara-84 on 2004-12-18 09:45 ][ This Message was edited by: Sara-84 on 2004-12-18 09:47 ]
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But it's not over, I don't see it that way. In fact, it's progressively getting worse. It won't be over until this kind of "treatment" is made illegal.
What motivates me? Compassion for those still suffering.
As far as people telling me to get over it, well they just better not. :wink: But really, it's they who lack compassion. Loss is something that most people carry with them their entire lives. Loss changes you permanently. I mourn the loss of a childhood but do not regret the person I am today.
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On 2004-12-18 23:33:00, cult survivor wrote:
"But it's not over, I don't see it that way. In fact, it's progressively getting worse. It won't be over until this kind of "treatment" is made illegal.
What motivates me? Compassion for those still suffering.
As far as people telling me to get over it, well they just better not. :smile:
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Well, it looks like I agree with you 100% as well. :smile: