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Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform => The Troubled Teen Industry => Topic started by: Anonymous on July 13, 2003, 10:57:00 AM
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I am considering sending my son to King George after Wilderness at SUWS. He's a good kid but skipped a lot of school, has issues with pot and alcohol and lying, couple of car accidents. I would like any input from people with experience at King George. Also, after reading all these scary posts, I'm reconsidering my decision to send him to a boarding school but don't have any good day school options for him here in S. Florida. Does anyone know of any good day schools with strong academics and a school culture of support and community building?
Thanks
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why don't you raise your son yourself lady?
what a horrible, horrible parent you must be...
what?
too busy?
sad...
really sad.
you now that?
no.
you don't do you?
$nice parenting skills lady$
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Felt Good to Burn
I didn't care
when that guy ripped us off
We borrowed a gun to get him,
we were so pissed off
We shot his leg.
He was a dick, anyway
It felt good to burn.
Felt like a movie star
When you hold my slippery brain
Kiss my forehead
All summer long we refused to die
We just sucked and fucked
and got high
And all we'd steal.
We lit up on the Ferris wheel
Felt good to burn.
Felt like a movie star
When you hold my slippery brain
Kiss my forehead
And all your dreams,
and oh, God blessed your soul
I saw you were holdin' your head
But we couldn't have been dead
'cause you stood up and moaned
and said,
"I wasn't wavin' goodbye, I was sayin' hello."
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It's too bad you are reconsidering a boarding school after reading posts on this website. It's clear that most on this forum think we're bad parents. Is it not a good parent that seeks help before their child drops out of school or gets into the legal system? If the issues aren't very serious - which means you still have control, then a boarding school option is not usually recommended. You have an obligation to your child to do whatever it takes to get help. Choose a program that also offers help for you, as a parent. It would be my opinion to look elsewhere for unbiased help. You won't get it here.
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gee, you must be perfect?
right!
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gee, you must be perfect?
right!
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"has issues with pot and alcohol and lying, couple of car accidents"
Isn't that the definition of a teenager? If you're looking for the most healthy option for your son, wouldn't that be to let him grow up in his natural environment, rather than putting him in an institutional like setting?
I hate to say that, but i cant think of many kids when i went to high school that didn't smoke pot or drink alcohol. The president of our school smoked. I always hear parents saying that they are doing this for their child. But i think they get caught up in their own selfish panic and make irrational decisions in the moment.
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An Idea :idea:
Try homeschooling. You get to see and experience all of the rewards and challenges of your child's learning experiences. You will have the satisfaction of knowing you did your best to raise your child. If you throw your child in a boarding school, you only accentuate the possibility that he will be abused physically and emotionally. This could lead to more drugs and alcohol later, and could end up having you held liable for the problems that you created by knowing ahead of time that sending him to one of these places would be wrong. Seems like you should spend some more time with him at the very least. If you do not take control, and pay someone else to, then you open a can of worms that you may not be able to negotiate!
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On 2003-07-13 10:22:00, Anonymous wrote:
"gee, you must be perfect?
right!"
uh, no.
it's supposed to be a maternal instinct!
you are bad parents!
you don't know your own children...(that's bad)
we should know.
we are children of parents just like you
not long ago i was 16
a decade is nothing...
you're kidding only yourselves
you don't trust your children do you?
you never have either
try and deny it to yourselves
your children see more than you'll ever realize
(they don't trust you either)
that's why they lie.
and they will remember...
they will.
you aren't parenting
you're following.
pathetic bovines that you all are
moooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!
:cry:
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Um, I might suggest, gently of course, that you GET A LIFE. A life doesn't mean spending hours spewing negative BS to anonymous parents who are doing the right thing. Why don't you go do some volunteer community service instead!
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On 2003-07-13 16:09:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Um, I might suggest, gently of course, that you GET A LIFE. A life doesn't mean spending hours spewing negative BS to anonymous parents who are doing the right thing. Why don't you go do some volunteer community service instead!"
*flipping you off*
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very imature for 26. no wonder your parents acted that way :exclaim:
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very imature for 26. no wonder your parents acted that way :exclaim:
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Volunteer, I thought that is what I am doing. Of course most of the people on these boards did not volunteer, they were "drafted" in to this problem when their parents were swindled into blindly sending them into the hands of sadistic con artists and cult leaders.
The only bias we have here is that the safety and freedom of the kids comes first and the comfort and piece of mind of the parents a distant second.
Unfortunately this industry is almost completely unregulated, operates under the radar of the laws that do regulate it, staff often have no qualifications to work with kids, and it has a long history of child abuse.
These programs advertise to the parents as psychiatric services, tell the state they are private schools, tell the world they are non-profit, and tell the kids 'welcome to hell'.
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On 2003-07-14 08:49:00, Anonymous wrote:
"very imature for 26. no wonder your parents acted that way :exclaim: "
yeah.
*still flipping you off*
arrest me officer!
(hey ginger, show her the picture)
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On 2003-07-14 08:49:00, Anonymous wrote:
"very imature for 26. no wonder your parents acted that way :exclaim: "
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:silly: ...such are the joys of an unmoderated forum...sigh
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Here is a parent that has the right idea, a good day school option and they are being ridiculed. It is probably because the anon poster wasn't allowed an education in the program that they were in. The meaning of the words "Day school" just don't register. This parent is not willing to risk their child to a boarding school. Don't 99.9% of Americans send their children to "day schools". Usually these are public schools, but there are many good private alternatives. I don't know where you are from in S. FL. but start with the private schools in the yellow pages. Sometimes you just can't "home school" your children. It isn't the right thing for everyone. Ask around, word of mouth, let people know what you are looking for. You know your child better than probably anyone else. Write down what you think would be the ideal school environment for him/her. Then search for one that meets all or most of your criteria. Talk to teachers and parents and students and visit the classrooms. If a child is coming home every evening and you keep the communications open there is nothing wrong with a private day school. Sometimes there aren't as many choices for H.S. age children as elementary, but they are out there. Some very small schools can be good. Does your child have a special talent or skill that they would like to develop? Hopefully you can find a school that will allow growth in that area. Where are you looking for a school?
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just kiddin around...
i think the day school idea is just spiffing!
the talent or skill suggestion was a very good one
i just don't uderstand why some parents don't know
or take the time to get to know their own children.
and expecting others to explain them to you...
but by saying:
"that's probably why your parents did what they did..."
well, that's just about one of the most ignorant things you could have possably thought of to say.
giving me reason to believe you may simply lack in IQ.
happy private school hunting!
(yeah, i went to private school too!)
two private schools, one boot camp, and straight.
because of stupid parents like some of you.
now i'm here as a warning to you...
(volutarily, that is)
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Well there is certainly a much better chance of the kid being treated humanely in a day school where he can come home every day. There have been cases where such schools have been found to be abusive but that was mostly in cases where individual employees of the school were pedophiles or where the school catered to the mentally disabled.
Questions to ask about any day school that is supposed to help emotional or mental problems:
Are they properly licensed, not just as a school but also a mental health services provider?
What are the philosophies of the school? Religious or Secular, Montessori, Progressive or Traditional ,etc?
What are the rules?
What are the punishments for breaking the rules?